To want to tell my FIL to f**k off when he comments about me eating 1 hobnob when I am 23 weeks pregnant!!!!!

[HelloBear]

FIL round for cup of tea. I ask my DH for a chocolate hobnob (purchased following extensive research reading the biscuit debate on MN) and my FIL says 'have you not had tea why do you need a biscuit?' This was not a polite enquiry into my eating habits but said in a tone of 'you'll get fat'.

Now this man is very over weight, I on the other hand had MS for the first 12 weeks, and have had 2 sickness bugs since then and weigh less than 9st at 23 weeks pregnant. So I think that 1 hobnob is not going to push me into obesity just yet.

So AIBU or AIB a hormonal, over sensitive, cow? highly likely I accept

I would just tell him that as a grown up you don't need or want anyone dictating to you whether or not you need a biscuit.

"I only take advice on nutrition from people whose BMI is in the normal range, not obese"

Said by my very brave friend to her horrendous interfering MIL. I punched the air behind mil back with joy for her.

I always think smile and nod is best, say 'probably' and change the subject. Let these things flow over you. You will probably get more once the baby is here so don't let it get to you, smile and nod. They give up eventually-it just takes some longer than others.

What a rude man. I think I would tell him to listen to his own advise as he is obviously the one who needs to lay off the Hobnobs. Your DH needs to tell him how out of order he is.

RedBlanket That's how I get through my day mostly.
Me too.

HelloBear He was rude. But people who are obese sometimes have issues or ignorance around nutrition and healthy weight - either the issues are what led to the obesity, or the constant reading of diet books skews what 'healthy' eating is, or the feeling that others are looking at them and judging can make them feel resentful especially if they are watching you eating biscuits, or any combination of the above. His rudeness is less a comment on your weight and more about how he feels about biscuits and weight gain. You have to be the bigger person here (no pun intended)

Guve him a small knowing smile and pat his stomach gently. Isn't it wierd how people who put other people down are never an oil painting themselves?

he was passing comment on your vagine ?

Grim old perv. Yuck.

Rejig the famous winston Churchill (?) quote - ah but fil at least in 9 months I'll no longer be pregnant and you'll still be obese' and see what he says :o