To want to tell my FIL to f**k off when he comments about me eating 1 hobnob when I am 23 weeks pregnant!!!!!

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FIL round for cup of tea. I ask my DH for a chocolate hobnob (purchased following extensive research reading the biscuit debate on MN) and my FIL says 'have you not had tea why do you need a biscuit?' This was not a polite enquiry into my eating habits but said in a tone of 'you'll get fat'.

Now this man is very over weight, I on the other hand had MS for the first 12 weeks, and have had 2 sickness bugs since then and weigh less than 9st at 23 weeks pregnant. So I think that 1 hobnob is not going to push me into obesity just yet.

So AIBU or AIB a hormonal, over sensitive, cow? highly likely I accept

how fucking rude. I hope you didn't offer him one

I think you might be a teeny weeny bit over sensitive here and YWBU to tell him to fuck off
And YABU to just have one. Scoff the packet, you're eating for two.

Just to point out I would never tell my DFIL to f*k off in RL. It was an imaginary in my head 'f*k off'.

are you sure it wasn't said in the tone of

'I'm taking the piss because you are too thin and you eat like a sparrow so I'm quite surprised you eat biscuits'

my sister's FIL just to make jokes all the time about her eating cakes and biscuits, didn't she want to watch her weight? and then to his son he would tell him that he was worried she was too thin

was his odd way of him cajoling(sp) her to eat more even more odd since he knew she was a recovered anorexic

Just say

"Don't worry about MY weight FIL"

and stare at his belly.

RED I take your point on board (off to kitchen to retrieve more hobnobs).

Oh if it's an imaginary in your head fuck off then YANBU. That's how I get through my day mostly.

Mmmmm, workshy possibly.

This is the man who also said to me at my DD's birthday party after she had just blown out the candles and everyone was sat around 'don't you have cake as you know you stretch after giving birth and it does not go back'. I know he was referring to my stomach but lets just put it this way a number of people took it to him referring to OTHER parts of my body. My DH and DBIL were nearly on the floor pissing themselves with laughter. I on the other hand hid in the kitchen very .

So I think he does have a special way with words.

Did he cook tea? Maybe he's worried your not eating a good meal (My real instinct is that he is a cheeky fecking twit)

hehehe

very

lol

Just read your last post...he IS a cheeky fecking twit after all.

I'd say 'if I was hungry I'd have something proper to eat, not a biscuit, but I fancied a treat/ something sweet thankyouverymuch FIL'

This is outrageous

If you had read the biscuit thread you would know that Rich Tea are the only biscuits worth eating.

Send him over here and I will tell him to feck off. (Once I have finished the pack of biscuits!) What a rude man!
If my DH laughed at that he would be in serious trouble!

Ugh. I got this all the time from MIL both times. The first time I was PG I got all worked up about it. The second time round I just looked pointedly at MIL's waistline and made damn sure she saw me do so (she isn't obese, but trust me, she's in no position to offer diet tips to anyone). She STFU pretty quickly.

coco - All the rich teas are gone, I have to say my DH and I are disappointed with the chocolate hobnobs (prepare myself to get flamed for this).

I think you should say very sweetly, 'Sorry FIL but why do you think it is any of your business what when and how much I eat?' and of he comes out with the usual bollocks about 'got to think of what you're feeding the baby' or even worse 'my grandchild', just actually say FUCK OFF and walk away. He won't do it again.

Or you could just take the passive-aggressive route and 'think' FUCK OFF repeatedly but maybe accidentally knock some boiling hot tea over his crotch?

Rich Tea???? No Way

MIL does this. Always assumes what I want to consume. Presumptuous and rude, IMO. But some people's "way".

Well I did say they were over rated. If only people would listen

Disappointed with Hobnobs? YAVVBU!

Dark chocolate obviously...:o

Ask him when his baby is due?

"you're very preoccupied with my body, is there something you'd like to confess to us?"

ought to shut him up

my mil and fil are feeders they seem to think breastfeeding means i have to eat for 7...

Yanbu, it's really annoying. But you do have 17 more weeks of everyone thinking for some reason that they may comment on your food or drink, or (perceived) lack of it, or your tummy or boobs or size/shape in general! I had a male work colleague pick up a can of lilt I was drinking and inspect it to see how much caffeine was in it last pregnancy. A) None and B) Get off my fucking drink and fuck the fuck off, NOW. Ahhhhhhh ...think I need a hobnob now.