to wish that people wouldn't put serious mental health/relationship questions in the aibu topic?

[Mintyy]

I suppose I am.

Ah well fuck it then eh ZigZag?

Hehe, are you alright Mintyy? Anything you want to talk about?

Mintyy - I don;t think you're at all unreasonable to wish people posted serious questions in places other than AIBU. Some of the responses in AIBU worry me. I worry about someone vulnerable not really being in a good enough place to sift between the completely unreasonable responses and the reasonable ones. I also worry (and I know it's not popular to say this) about the AIBU-ification of mn discussions, as the "feel" of a (very) popular section of mn spreads out across other topics.

EmilieFloge puts feelings I think I would share very well.

I'm saying what I'm saying because I wish the internet was about when I were a lass and having trouble getting across how I felt to other people.

It came out all wrong and I ended up getting so frustrated (with myself) that it came out aggressive/me being a twat, but to be able to get that across without hurting anyone and have the possibility of a bit of hand holding, I know it would have been a valuable outlet for me - and saved me a whole lot of shit.

I think these peopel are welcoem to post here BUT they need to know that they may be handled roughly.

IMO though AIBU is often a better forum for advice (certainly better than Relationships) as you will get every opinion, including the ones you don't like but need to hear.

To be honest, I wouldn't advise anyone with a mental health issue to use an open forum that's as lightly moderated as MN is.

Whilst nowhere on the internet is 'safe', I do feel particularly vulnerable people would be 'safer' using a more private and heavily moderated forum.

I mean when posting about their mental health issues of course...not everyday general things.

Not meaning to be picky worra, but different mental health problems at different times of persons life means they can be vulnerable and still get what they're looking for on MN.

If these were RL interactions my head would have exploded before now, I just couldn't handle the critical judgement in lots of posters answers, but because I'm at arms length and have a bit of control over it doesn't affect me in the same way.

Saying that though, I did struggle for the first time with MN after I was called a bully on a thread a bit ago, so I'm not saying I'm immune to it or anything.

Not meaning to be picky worra, but different mental health problems at different times of persons life means they can be vulnerable and still get what they're looking for on MN.

Oh yes they can, I totally agree but they're always going to run the risk of being trolled/bullied or even just criticised at a time when they must might not be able to handle it...therefore I wouldn't personally advise anyone to take the risk.

Of course it can still happen in private and heavily moderated sites, but I do think the risk is going to be smaller.

I agree Worra and Gatheringlilacs. Obv I am glad tho that some posters like bunnyjo and pirate got the advice/support they needed via AIBU.

YANBU.

Maybe there should be a specific section of MN for "quick response needed" posts, so people don't feel they have to try AIBU?