in not stopping my children help with nappy changing?

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I have b/g twins. When it comes to nappy changing they like to help me with the other. So for example DTD will help wipe DTS (after ive got the messy part done) and "help" put his nappy on and do the tabs.

The other day a HV (not our usual one) was in just seeing how they were and saw what they do at nappy changing time. She said oh you cant let them do that, its inappropriate.

Was IBU to laugh at her and tell her not to be so ridiculous?

Did she say why it's inappropriate?

How old are they?

I would've asked her why and then laughed at her!

Yanbu some people are just plain crazy. Ds1 17 and ds2 9 both change ds3s nappy. Did you ask why she thought it was inappropriate?

Dd aged 4 helps nappy change her baby brother, 5 months. What's the problem with brothers and sisters help change nappies?!! Stupid people!

Should they not be bathed togeather either? Is it just a boy/girl thing? I'd have had to ask her before telling her what a loon she was

I wouldn't let a child that young help with the wiping - even if you've actually done it all yourself, you can't rely on how gentle they will be and they could hurt the other one if they use a bit more pressure or slip. Other than that it's very cute though.

Agree with right. I let my 7 and 9 yr old help by bringing me nappies and wipes and nappybag.wouldnt let them wipe don't understand the point in a baby wiping the other baby's bum more fun for them to ask them to help by keeping baby occupied so doesn't crawl off

My two yo daughter likes to help with her baby brother's nappy. What the actual fuck is wrong with it?! YANBU!

Well they are obviously not tiny babies or they wouldn't be capable of wiping each other so I wouldn't think there's much chance of them getting hurt if they are watched properly

Not appropriate !! I am in a quandry thinking what she could probably mean ... did you ask her !!??

Mayb u didn't wash her hands properly afterwards?

The twins will be 2 in Aug. They are always supervised and the dont really wipe as such, more wave the wipe over their bits. I was too shocked to ask why she thought it was inappropriate.

Why aren't they toilet trained?

Err I do not think I would encourage it tbh. Right or wrong that's me.

YANBU
ignore her
children are naturally fascinated by other children's bodies

Why sole?

The twins are wiring each other? I have read that correctly haven't I? not a younger baby in the house?

Letting them wipe each other's bums is probably a good way to encourage them to wipe their own bums, later on.

BUT, If I'm honest, I probably wouldn't have encouraged my DSs to have wiped each other. Hygiene reasons, primarily. Also boundaries - them learning about where and by whom it's appropriate to touch and be touched.

I have dtds and probably won't encourage this, but that's more about the mess and speed. How you parent, so long as dc aren't in danger, is none of her business. dtds are 10mo now and I haven't seen a hv since 5mo other than weighing.

Maybe she thinks if they're old enough to help change nappies, they're old enough to use a potty?

I find it inappropriate and an over step of appropriate bounderies, If they can wipe each others bums they can wipe thier own, once you can wipe your own bottom, you do not need anyone else to do it for you.

why is the HV still involved with your twins?

Yes, I agree with that, TheEnthusiasticTroll

They are always supervised and the dont really wipe as such, more wave the wipe over their bits