Horrible letter from Ex -AIBU

[anysummerthisyear]

So, brief background: My DP's and his EXW are about to start what is probably going to be a very long court "battle" regarding their children. She very much dislikes me and that DP has moved on and is with someone else. Her latest thing is to try and make DP look like a terrible father and one of her methods is to lie about me and make out I am not "fit" to be around their children (DP currently has main residency) albeit informally not by court order. She has nothing "on me" as such. I have not done anything detrimental to the children, there is nothing "wrong" with me, no terrible past etc. I have my own children and this is entirely fabricated by her. (Of course you guys don't know that but you'll have to take my word for it)

Over the weekend she sent a really spiteful letter direct to my DP's solicitor. Usually her letters all come from her solicitor to his and therefore are neutral, and non confrontational, this one isn't. We are asumming she got angry and sent it rashly before taking legal advice There are around 6 pages of moans, lies and false accusations about DP but most of it is about me! Nothing "serious" like crimes etc just accusing me of saying things I haven't, doing certain things etc. She has also got her sister and father to lie too. I know it's not true and so does DP (many incidents she claims I did something DP was there too). She has blatantly lied and it has really upset me to read these lies as they paint me as a nasty, evil witch not fit to be around children.

Anyway, DP's solicitor has told him to totally ignore it. It isn't a normal letter sent to a solicitor no questions or proposals etc, it was moaning and bullshitting basically. I have had a think and I personally want to reply. Just to the bits that accuse me of things I haven't done. It would be a letter from me direct to EXW's solicitor, disputing her claims and really just clearing my name for the record. She could use her letter in court and I feel it's better that the lies don't go undisputed.

AIBU to reply? Is DP's letter but as much of it is lies about me I feel like I have the right to reply.

I am not a lawyer and I am not giving you legal advice. However, I will say that people who write 'personal' letters (like the ex here) tend to look crazy. The reason that you didn't respond to it was because it was just some crazy talk from a crazy woman and it wasn't worth your time.

Imagine it was an argument rather than a letter - this woman came up to you in the street and started shoulting at you and calling you names. If you responded you might look as bad as her, so it would be better if you just walked away.

Ignore it.

not a lawyer or anything like that but if her accusations have failed to illicit a response up to now, I think she is just doing this all for effect she wants to muddy the water and a reply from you will do just that.

My advice is to steer well clear concentrate on doing what you have been doing and leave the rest to the legal profession.

She comes across as the unstable one and he said she said is never in the best interests of any child.

Ignore, ignore, ignore. She sounds like a loon and the judge will see that and it can only be in your/ your DP's favour that you have managed to rise above her nasty, provocative lies.