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My last nerve is shredding

26 replies

atosilis · 28/06/2012 23:34

All I want to do is come home and relax. Oh has been drinking all day for the tennis and football. I have to be up in 7 hrs. I just want to sit in silence and watch anything but sport

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kittyandthefontanelles · 28/06/2012 23:40

Telly in the bedroom?

maras2 · 28/06/2012 23:49

Can I be the first to say 'Leave the bastard'.Sorry but it was too tempting.:) Does he have to go to work tomorrow?

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atosilis · 28/06/2012 23:53

No, he doesn't work. stamps feet I just want to come home and watch random shite (actually that prob is the definition of football)

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Alameda · 28/06/2012 23:56

was quite a thrilling match though, most enjoyable so far I thought

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/06/2012 23:57

I hope there is a back story because what I am hearing is... He has been drinking all day, doesn't work, you work, he gets to pick the telly even when you get home.

ImperialBlether · 28/06/2012 23:58

Yes, I'm hoping there's a bloody good back story too. I'm starting to dislike him already!

DonkeyTeapot · 28/06/2012 23:59

YANBU. Ditto what MrsTerryPratchet said.

ImperialBlether · 29/06/2012 00:00

So I assume you have to be up in seven hours to care for small children?

If so, is he getting up with you?

If you've just got home, you must be knackered at the thought of getting up at 7 am.

zookeeper · 29/06/2012 00:01

does he have some redeeming qualities? (they'd have to be bloody good)

zookeeper · 29/06/2012 00:01

sigh. Strikeout failure.

lovebunny · 29/06/2012 05:06

ask yourself what you get out of this relationship.

then put all his stuff in binliners just outside the front door and get the locks changed.

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atosilis · 29/06/2012 06:36

I come on here and whinge from time to time, normally I'm ok but every now and then I have a foot stamping session! I work, he's retired.

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atosilis · 04/07/2012 21:42

Sorry to bump again. I came home from work,OH was watching tennis. After an hour I came downstairs and asked to watch something I wanted. Ok. I started to watch something I'd recorded and he made a fuss. I said it wasn't fair. He said that what I wanted to watch was crap. I have gone to bed and he is in the other bedroom. Tomorrow I have an outpatients appt for a black mole on my breast, I just want to relax and take my mind off tomorrow.

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atosilis · 05/07/2012 00:11

Got the general message of yawn

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squeakytoy · 05/07/2012 00:18

I hope your appt goes ok tomorrow.

Re the tv, do you have sky or freeview?

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atosilis · 05/07/2012 00:24

Thanks - I can't watch recorded stuff upstairs.

From reading things on here, I begin to smile at his behaviour and not cry. I bore everyone shitless but learn all the time....

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atosilis · 05/07/2012 00:34

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atosilis · 05/07/2012 00:44

Yes, but I lived this life when I was 12. Thanks for responding both

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squeakytoy · 05/07/2012 00:56

I would say treat yourself to a recordable freeview box, but I also suspect that there is more to it than the TV.

If you have an iPhone, you can watch iPlayer on that too.

I am married to someone who glues his paws to the remote control whenever he is in the house, so I do get peed off with having to go elsewhere in the house when there is something I want to watch.

millieandmax · 05/07/2012 01:09

Take control is all I can suggest. If he's retired he's has all day to watch what he wants. Send him upstairs if he doesn't like what you want to watch, do as squeakytoy said get a free view recordable box they don't cost much. Good luck for tomorrow.

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/07/2012 02:41

Give him a recordable box for a present. Then tell him he has all day to watch his stuff and exactly half the evening.

Good luck with your mole.

izzyizin · 05/07/2012 02:49

From your posts on Relationships it seems you have considerably bigger problems with your h than not being able to watch what you want on the tv.

Some months back you said you were leaving the asshole; if you follow through you'd be able to watch what you want you on the box.

Why are you still with him?

millieandmax · 05/07/2012 03:23

Some months back you said you were leaving the asshole; if you follow through you'd be able to watch what you want you on the box.

Why are you still with him?

Because it's one thing saying it and a completely different thing following through. Some people are just not strong enough sadly, especially if they don't have people around to support them.