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dd's (18mo) nails painted at nursery!?

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ishopthereforeiam · 28/06/2012 18:43

I love her nursery and the carers but v pissed off they have painted her nails today. She's only 18mo and I don't think she's old enough. Shouldn't they ask before doing that sort of thing?

I would complain but think her key carer is already in some trouble and I like her and don't want to make things worse for her.

WWYD?

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MammaTJ · 28/06/2012 21:28

She is a baby, not a teenager and definately not a doll for them to play with!! I would hit the roof!!

MammaTJ · 28/06/2012 21:33

Actually, if you know the keyworker is in trouble for time off sick and she doesn't know it yet, I would be unimpressed by the gossipyness(think I may have just made a word up) and how unprofessional they are.

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ishopthereforeiam · 28/06/2012 21:53

mamma i overheard a conversation by the manager when I was dropping dd off and may be barking up the wrong tree but suspect it was about dd's k/w as she was off sick at the time (and it was about a member of staff who was off sick quite a lot which she has been on and off a day here / there) but she's v good with dd and a nice girl.

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MammaTJ · 28/06/2012 21:55

You should not have been in a position to overhear that!! Really. I work in a care setting and would not be impressed at all if service users or their relatives overheard the manager discussing me or another member of staffs sickness. Who was the manager talking to?

Noqontrol · 28/06/2012 22:00

I don't know, I don't think I'd be that angry really, as long as Dc wanted it, but I don't think either of mine would have really at that age, so it's a bit hard to imagine.

4boyzmum · 28/06/2012 22:02

My 3 yo had painted nails at 18 months(ish). Much to DH's disgust.....he's a boy!! But he loves having nails like Mummy Not like he's got it done all the time - very rarely. But it's not an issue. Maybe if it was twinned with a sequinned boob tube and hot pants........

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ishopthereforeiam · 29/06/2012 02:34

No ode mamma I would imagine a lawyer / hr type expert going by the tone but I could've got the wrong end of the stick ( the office is shared so shed come put side for privacy !) talking In hushed tones. Am a lawyer myself and used to advise on similar matters so maybe by I agnation is running riot but sounded like someone there is in trouble for sickness absence.

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jaggythistle · 29/06/2012 02:45

she's a baby! it's just wrong and unnecessary and Yuk!

if my DSs were randomly painted I'd be screwed as i don't own any nail varnish or remover...

YANBU to say something.

Yeahthatsnotgonnahappen · 29/06/2012 03:03

See that's the thing that would irritate me even more! Not only have you put crap on my dc but now you're forcing me to use more chemical crap to take it off.

I would be mightily pissed off about this and would be having words. It stinks of trying to shove my dc into the box of "i must be pretty because I'm a girl". I would be wanting to know if this happened to any of the boys.

ToxicMoxie · 29/06/2012 03:03

Mrs.T why not let her wear a suit with sharks or cars? that would be cool...

ToxicMoxie · 29/06/2012 03:04

YANBU, I think that's terrible, I personally hate how nail polish looks, especially red. I'm I supposed to look like I just gouged out someone's eyes?

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ishopthereforeiam · 29/06/2012 09:08

Had a quiet word with the room leader today and said I didn't want anyone to get in trouble but we're not doing the nail varnish thing for a few years as she's still just a baby(!) (room leader agreed) it wasn't the key worker. I suspect someone in the toddler room did it as dd likes to mix between the older kids and babies. I don't want to deprive dd from having fun but she's just too young for it at the moment.

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Keepthechangeyoufilthyanimal · 29/06/2012 09:44

ridiculous - no need at that age - surely she doesnt even know what it is!
And unfair to expect her to either sit still until it dries, or touch her eyes, mouth etc and have it rub off?!

I would have a casual word with the Nursery manager and say you'd prefer if it didn't happen again!

HipHopOpotomus · 29/06/2012 09:50

I'd be very annoyed.
Nail polishes highly toxic as is nail polish remover. What on earth would possess a nursery worker to do this?

Dd (4) has her toe nails painted twice by
My niece. It is quite common for her friends at nursery to have painted nails and toes so clearly other parents aren't bothered. But I'm not encouraging it.

I wld be very upset if someone painted Dd2's nails - she is 14 months.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/06/2012 22:09

ToxicMoxie I was torn between sharks and the crab one actually . She can sort of say crab so that won. I wouldn't buy the Cars one because it was a Disney Cars one not just a cars one IYSWIM. She has a trucks and cars pyjama set because she loves cars, which makes every trip out a nightmare...

"CAR!" Pat pat pat, tries the handle, walks 5 feet, "CAR!" Pat pat pat, tries the handle, walks 5 feet, "CAR!" Pat pat pat, tries the handle, walks 5 feet, "CAR!" Pat pat pat, tries the handle, walks 5 feet.

MerylStrop · 29/06/2012 22:15

It's the sort of thing that I would think that I ought to be livid about but somehow I wouldn't really mind much

DS (7), DD (5) and DS (2) have all got silver toenails today. Better take DS1's off in the morning before he goes to Cub camp

sheepsgomeeping · 29/06/2012 23:42

Reminds me of when I went on holiday last month.

Ds, aged 12, dd aged 9 and my youngest two girls aged 5 and two, all had their nails painted by myself and my mum. We then painted ours and then went swimming with purple polish. Dd aged 2 thought it was great and ds kept his on for two days.

Sorry. . Random thought there. I do agree a bit inappropriate for nursery, it sounds a bit of a shit one to me

YankNCock · 29/06/2012 23:57

I just can't understand how this would come about at a nursery, why even have nail varnish in a baby/toddler room?

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ishopthereforeiam · 30/06/2012 00:26

Even more bizarre, I was told today only dd had her nails done - no other children?!

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WhitePeacock · 30/06/2012 00:58

MrsTerryPratchett my 18 mo dd is EXACTLY the same with cars - your post made me laugh aloud! And bloody swimsuits, grrr. She's dark enough that we've managed to get away with a cheerful Bummis swim nappy. Sympathise with quest for a swimsuit for a little lass that doesn't scream "posing nicely for pretty photo" rather than "splashing so hard that everything in five-mile radius will be drenched".

OP, I would be properly wrath-of-Jove (by which I mean I would say "Excuse me, I'd really rather you didn't do that") if any bugger put nail varnish on my daughter.

47to31in7days · 30/06/2012 01:14

The toxicity of the products is an issue.

For a 1yo I can't see "sexualisation" or body image as an issue, painting toenails does not= "women must be artificially beautiful", in any mind that young, while a 7yo in a crop top padded bra and spray tanned is different.

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/06/2012 01:19

WhitePeacock they sound like peas in a pod!

BlackOutTheSun · 30/06/2012 13:12

Why only your dd? That is strange

valiumredhead · 30/06/2012 13:33

I saw a 6 month old with painted nails the other day!

I'm not surprised she's in trouble if she does things like that - totally inappropriate.

RedHelenB · 30/06/2012 13:36

Has she qualifications in childcare of any sort?? Really can't imagine that happening in any childcare setting I know of.

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