dd's (18mo) nails painted at nursery!?

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I love her nursery and the carers but v pissed off they have painted her nails today. She's only 18mo and I don't think she's old enough. Shouldn't they ask before doing that sort of thing?

I would complain but think her key carer is already in some trouble and I like her and don't want to make things worse for her.

WWYD?

Urgh. I'd be livid. Not their place and sendsa terrible message.

yes

I don't think there's anything wrong with it in principle but I wouldn't be happy about them putting a toxic substance on the nails of a child that young. I mean nail varnish is poisonous and if a child got hold of a bottle or sucked it off their own fingers then it would be bad news. Why would they bother having something so potentially dangerous within the reach of toddlers? It seems unnecessarily silly IMO.

I'd be livid

Ick, make up on toddlers is so trashy.

I would complain.

Totally inappropriate. I'd be quite mistrustful of the staff from then on. What next? Hair extensions high heels? Urgh.

Thanks mrs t, that was interesting.

I always pull my mum up on centring on my girls' looks. (love my mum but she's immaculately coiffured and a tad looks obsessed).

I have 2 degrees (not that that means owt) and always speak to my girls in a way to get them to think!

That said, I still can't shake off that desire for them to look 'nice'

Must try harder!

Love that link, Mrsterrypratchett, thanks.

I would be annoyed because of the message it sends plus the chemicals. My 2year old paints her toes with paint (her painting paint I mean) because she sees my red nails, but at least she is doing that herself! Maybe if your DD was 3 and had admired her key workers toes or something that wouldn't be so bad. I would just have a friendly quiet word about it though, not go in all guns blazing.

I'm another who'd do nothing. I pick my battles, this is no major deal in the big scheme of things.

I would mention to her that you don't want it done again and mention the chemical/potential eating thing. But you know it was probably done in a nice way, and was likely done with good intentions and something she thought they would like. If she is a good worker overall and cares about the kids/has a good rapport then dont hold on to it too long.

My DD has her toenails painted alot - we do it together, only ever pale pink and its a treat if she is good. Like tonight we have painted them and put sparkly over the top.

She is 3 and i'm sure some people are quite judgey when they see her toes

However your nursery should have asked you first, nail varnish is a very personal thing and some people would take great offence.
I would have a little word as it is pretty un-professional.

Another vote for YANBU.

It's just not right.

One and a half! Nail varnish? Without your permission! No.

In fact at any age at school or nursery without your permission - no.

Perhaps they'd like to pierce her ears for you next week OP

I was thinking about this kind of thing the other day. I went to buy DD a swimming costume. She loves the water and is very pale so I need a cover-up one. My choices for her are, a neon pink cover-all one (just one cover-all for girls in the whole shop), a bunch of teeny, tiny bikinis and costumes all of which are either pink or sparkly or flowers or bows or flipping Disney. All of which would make her look like a teeny, tiny Miss World contestant.

Boys choices in cover-all... crabs, sharks, boats, surfer dude, Cars and on and on. Also, shorts and tops, Speedo type things and different shapes, colours and sizes.

So my DD has to either burn, wear sunscreen or wear neon pink while being shoved in a teeny, tiny box. Which is marked LOOK PRETTY on the outside.

She is currently using a 'boys' crab cover-all. Bollocks to you marketers. Because she loves the water, she also loves the crab cover-all. Adores it, would take it to bed with her if I let her. So, that got me thinking. If I had succumbed to the marketing pressure and got her a sparkly pink Princess pony party bikini, presumably she would have loved that too because it screams WATER PLAY to her. Then would I have thought, awwwww she loves pink and sparkles? Maybe this is how it works.

Caroleservice 6 is a lovely age to 'play' with wash off nail varnish. 2 is far too young to have any on. And certainly for a supposedly professional child care environment to do this is highly unprofessional. What next? Fake eyelashes at 4? Ok, that last comment was daft, but really people - can't you see how unprofessional this is, even if you don't object to the child wearing it on principle?

I'd probably raise an eyebrow and ask them not to do it again

But fundamentally there are other, more important things to worry about imo

I would be pissed off. I don't like children having stuff like that done certainly not that young.

I think I would be tempted to pull someone to one side and say "DD came home yesterday with nail polish on, I don't find that age appropriate and I do not want it doing again" or write a note in her book if they have one, my DN has a contact book.

Makes me cross to think of your 18 month old being told to stop playing for fear of not letting her nails dry right. What/?!?!?

Id be furious, but take it up with nursery politrly and say you were surprised that something liek this, even though its atemporary change, could be done without your permission. WOuld they cut her hair?

My and DD, aged 4 paint nails rarely for parties as it is fun to dress up fro music festival/party etc. Not at nursery surely.7

Glad you put in that article.... i always something bette rto say. i get frustrated at societies obsession with how my little one looks.

What the actual FUCK? Why would anyone paint a baby's nails?!

My DS1 is 17mo, and I would have ripped them a new one if they painted his nails. And that's fuck all to do with the fact that he is a boy (my other two DS's went through a stage of wanting theirs done at about 4/5yo), and a huge amount of he's a BABY and it's fucking unnecessary!!!

I' dbe pretty pissed off about this too and I'm fairly laidback about my DD having her nails painted. She was about 2 when I got bored one afternoon and painted her's for first time

It'a not really the staffs place to decide to paint a baby's nails imo and surely there were plenty of other more fun things for the babies/toddlers to be doing?

The chemicals thing would annoy me more than the act iyswim? Children of this age love role play - and probably enjoy role play of copying mums/ nans/ aunts.

But actual nail polish is not necessary. we used felt tips until our teens!

I've just picked up on something else - you said the nursery worker is already in trouble. And she still goes and does this? She may be a lovely girl but TBH she's in the wrong job.

Why is key worker already in trouble?

Yanbu.

I'm shocked as a nursery manager, why would she do that!? If i'm honest sounds like rubbish bored staff. I'd complain! How do you know the key person is in trouble?

She's a baby. Painting her nails is a ludicrous thing to do.

Thanks all, I think I'll talk to the key worker quietly and just say she's a bit young for it. Imagine if it was dm or dmil that did that I'd be furious too as it's quite a big assumption to make that it's ok to do.

I was just very horrified that they didn't ask/ I wouldn't let her have make up or nail varnish until she's much older as I just don't think it's right for babies (imho!).

K/w may be in trouble for time off sick, but am not sure she knows.

Dh also pointed out like white that it's sth I might like to have done (in the future!).