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To *hint* to boyfriend that I'll be breaking up with him this weekend?

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BloodyCrossRoads · 28/06/2012 08:42

So I posted last week about my partner not even bothering to contact me about my exam results - we were supposed to be going out that night to cheer me up/congratulate me yet he never bothered contacting me about that either so I went out with friends, assuming he didn't want to go. He went in a strop and said it was all my fault as I should have contacted him blah blah blah - he has not apologised.
A couple of days later we'd still not physically seen each other and I kept thinking about things - how he's never actually here when I need someone, Christmas, exam results, even stupid things like the England games - we're sat watching them at separate houses despite the fact that we live 10 minutes from one another. All conversation is over facebook or text and we see each other roughly once a week. It's just all a bit shit. So I text him and told him I needed "space". Cliche' but I was too chicken to actually say I wanted to break up. He text me back saying "ok, I'll order you a shuttle haha" wtf?? His social skills are mind boggling.

So anyway, I was due to go to his house this weekend and sleep over. I have cancelled. I have made it blatently obvious that things are not looking good and a split is imminent. He has just text me to ask that since I'm not staying at his house saturday night, could we go for lunch Sunday?

AIBU to text back "yes, we need to talk anyway and I'd rather it be face to face rather than text or facebook this time". He'll know. Because we've had the "we need to talk" thing before when we broke up. This time it will be the true end to everything though.

So yeah, bit long winded but - AIBU to hint at impending break up?

OP posts:
Bagofholly · 28/06/2012 12:56

What's he like in the sack? Have you got another (weekly) shag lined up?Grin

BupcakesandCunting · 28/06/2012 12:58

Just dump him over the phone. It's a perfectly acceptable method of getting rid of a cumbersome oik.

ohchristFENTON · 28/06/2012 12:59

OP It sounds like you've threatened him with the break up chat in order to get him to beg and promise anything to you over lunch on Sunday, which is a bit game playing isn't it?

So say he tells you everything you want to hear - how long so you think he'll keep that up? - my guess is a couple of weeks at best and then you'll be back to where you are now, - which by the way is not a relationship.

Give it up, dump him cleanly and wait for a proper boyfriend.

Shullbit · 28/06/2012 13:00

I would prefer to be dumped by text than go along for a meal and be completely humiliated by being told basically in public that I am a twat.

He could very well be, but a meal is not the time or place to do it.

Go around to his tonight and be straight with him. There is no need to drag it out.

GossipWitch · 28/06/2012 13:03

Just ring him and tell him its over, I had to last year with my ex-not-ever-around-boyfriend, tbh I see him more now were not together than when we were together, and now I have a guy that does an 150 mile round trip twice a week to see me, which is awesome :)

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