To think this mum is BU?

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www.heraldseries.co.uk/news/9778500.Mother___s_horror_after_daughter___s_near_miss/?ref=mr

I don't disagree with you. Just trying to think of options

At the end of the day, the barriers need to be able to open and close so you can't expect for them to not have gaps.

Whilst standing on a platform, an adult knows to expect a train going past. A young toddler doesn't, therefore it is down to the parent to keep the toddler safe and away from the the edge.

Same for level crossings. There are enough warnings IE barrier going down, flashing lights, and an alarm to warn that a train is approaching. An adult is able to understand this, a child is not so therefore it is, yet again, down to the parent to then keep the toddler away from the crossing.

There really is enough warnings (speaking from those I have ever been across anyway). It is the adults fault here for not gaining control of the dog and child before getting to the crossing. It's basic common sense.

I remember being utterly astounded at how quick trains appear. Its not like I didnt know that trains were fast but until I saw that footage of one appearing as if from nowhere....
Gave me a bit more understanding of how some of the accidents happen.

I dont know if her going to the papers is particularly indicative of someone being unable to take responsibility. She might be like that. But quite often its a short cut to get someone to listen or do something about an issue.

And papers do edit pretty heavily.

I have had 5 kids over 20 years. I am careful and use reins (and have been flamed for it on MN). DCs taught to hold on to the buggy etc. But of course I have lapses in concentration.
I have a child with ASD and that makes it harder to keep and eye on the others. It may not be him trying to play with the trains but one of his little brothers taking advantage of him distracting me.

I would be likely to be ultra ultra careful near a train crossing but I am not used to them (familiarity may well breed contempt) and have lost a child which tends to make you hyper aware of hazards.

I am not used to them, it was only when I used to visit family for the few years they lived in the middle of nowhere a few times a year that I did and was always shocked at those who put their foot down to get through the barriers before they drop. As soon as those lights flash, you should stand back/slow down. Adults who have common sense know this. Those who don't are idiots, especially where children are concerned.

And I don't mean you MrsDeVere, I can imagine how difficult it could be in your situation but I very much doubt you would notice your child had wandered off to the barrier, but thought "Well, it is safe" before only darting for said child when you noticed they had found a gap which they decided to climb through. She should of grabbed her child the moment she noticed she was anywhere near that barrier, and also accept responsibility rather than passing the blame to others.

She is being incredibly ur. And tbh anybody else with kids who hasn't worked out that a fuck off huge train going very fast anywhere near you could be a hazzard is being vvur they should grab the phone right now phone a proper grown up and get them to come and collect children asap do not bath children first just incase you hadn't figured out that they can drown in water whilst your waiting remember not to let them wait in a air tight freezer.

How ever lots of people when this sort of thing happens feel so much fear guilt and shame that they can kinda go into huge defense mode it's like "omg shit shit shit how could I have been so stupid,let's look for something anything to blame it on because then at least I can pretend I'm not as culpable as I am" sometimes they don't even know there doing it, it's a bit like a defence mecanisum but expressed as a attack on the person or thing

So what she has admitted to is not having control of her toddler next to both a train line and road.

Nope, she has admitted to not having control of her toddler and her dog in the road next to a train line.

Never made a mistake? Let your attention wander for a second?

Yes - and I have not blamed someone else for it.

to put the dog on the leash was more important than making sure her toddler was secure near a crossing is just plain stupid