To be annyoyed that DH has said I shouldn't say the C word?

[Spice17]

Hello

OK I did say it the other day in a jokey song about the baby 'kicking me in the ' (at work, being careful) and he said 'Don't say that!' with a disgusted look on his face. I think he thinks that because I'm 25 weeks pregnant, I should be acting all ladylike which I of course actually am

Then yesterday, I said 'CANT' and he thought I'd said the other word and again said 'Don't say that', so I put him right but then also said if I want to say it I will (he does on occassion!)

It's not a lovely word I appreciate but is useful if you're really wanting to verbalise a strong dislike for someone, Michael Gove for example or if making up a song It's not like I go around saying it all day.

AIBU or is he?

I wouldn't say my baby kicked me in the cunt as that's a horrible way to put it so YWBU there. HOWEVER, I use the word and in any other context YANBU (as long as you don't use it in front of children which I'm sure you wouldn't).

He shouldn't be telling you not to say something, you're an adult and can decide what words to use. He should just say he doesn't like you using that word.

But it is a horrible word, and I wouldn't use it if I was referring to my baby in any way.

I think as he also says it he can´t tell you not to.

Think that both are you ABU to use it though.

I'm not overly fond of the word cunt myself, in fact I'm not sure I've ever said it out loud, but it's not up to your DH to decree which words you're allowed to use. If you were calling him a cunt, I can see why he'd take exception, but you're not. It's just a word.

And you're allowed to type cunt on here btw.

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If he doesn't want you to say it, then he shouldn't say it either - how would he react if you told him off for his language? It's worth learning to avoid words you don't want your little one to repeat, but that goes for both of you and has nothing to do with being "ladylike".

For some reason I'm not a lover of using that word. I use all the others though. To me it has something voilent and dreadfully degrading about it.

Tell him he's being a cunt.

What a cunt.

I always reply, I've got one, I'm more entitled than any man to use it. Why is it worse than dick?

Well, he's behaving like a bit of cunt over this but actually, it's not a word I'd use to describe my, er, cunt. I don't know why, since I have the language of a sailor but somehow the context that you used that word in sits uncomfortably with me.

Well I don't think your DH should be dictating what words you use...

But maybe he doesn't think you should be "acting all ladylike". Maybe he just doesn't think you should be using that word when talking about his baby.

Didn't it feel a bit wrong when you said it?

I don't like it and I've never said it out loud either. I wouldn't pick someone up on it, unless they were talking about one of my children of course!

how ridiculous!

there is definitely a place in the world for the word cunt. In fact one of the things that made me first realised I fancied the man that became my DH was when he called me a cunt at work one day (in a joke way I might add)

Is quite hard to explain why but I think I was flattered that he considered me a big enough woman to take it... or something. Anyway! worked for us

Tell him to stop being a cunt and that as you're his wife and not his child you'll say exactly what you cunting well like. I'd be furious if my DH spoke to me like that!

Of course, would not say in front of baby or any child or anything and the song was meant to be a silly, perhaps badly judged joke, because it kind of rhymed and baby bloomin was too :)

My main problem is him saying I shouldn't say it when he shouts it at sports people on the TV if frustrated and the fact that I am now some different person in his eyes because I'm pregnant.

BTW if my Mum ever heard me say it, she'd knock me into next week - not literally!

Just me who thought this was a Christmas thread then?

Had it been that C word, YWBVVVVVVVVVVVVU!

Blimey Mango!

Well he probably shouldn't be shouting it at the TV either - not if he doesn't want your baby to repeat it once they're talking.

Little ears have big mouths!

The context in which you said in your first example there is rather distasteful and I think I would have pulled a face too.

Saying someone a cunt is allowed in my book (circumstances permitting) but there is something really yuk about a woman referring to a part of her genitalia as her cunt.

YANBU. In general I am a very keen user of the word "cunt". Your song may have been in slightly poor taste though.

Cockadoodledoo, I am WITH YOU. There's been about 5 Christmas threads already this week.

AIBU to not want to spend Christmas with my parents?

You're being bloody unreasonable worrying about it now, are you REALLY going to worry about this for 6 MONTHS?

Over-organised people are weird.

OP, call a cunt a cunt. What are you meant to call it? A foo-foo or a noony or some crap? It's not like the baby can understand you.

I'd imagine it was the context he objected to, rather than the use of the word itself. Your baby kicked you in the cunt

I've no qualms about saying 'cunt' or any other swear words.

I once had a boyfriend who swore liberally but didn't like me doing it. He said I was a 'nice girl' and it didn't sound right coming from me.

Leave the cunt

Cunt is fine by me but that is not really the point, is it?

Your DH should mind his own language before he starts complaining about yours.