To be annyoyed that DH has said I shouldn't say the C word?

[Spice17]

Hello

OK I did say it the other day in a jokey song about the baby 'kicking me in the ' (at work, being careful) and he said 'Don't say that!' with a disgusted look on his face. I think he thinks that because I'm 25 weeks pregnant, I should be acting all ladylike which I of course actually am

Then yesterday, I said 'CANT' and he thought I'd said the other word and again said 'Don't say that', so I put him right but then also said if I want to say it I will (he does on occassion!)

It's not a lovely word I appreciate but is useful if you're really wanting to verbalise a strong dislike for someone, Michael Gove for example or if making up a song It's not like I go around saying it all day.

AIBU or is he?

Its DH's favourite word and he always laughs when he says it because its so horrible. He would never never call anyone it to their face, he usually uses it in a describing sort of way after an event iyswim. I on the other hand shout it out loud whenever my NDN walks or drives past the house. I know he can't hear me but its such fun I would never say it out loud at any other time.

It isnt a nice word to hear anyone saying, and more so a woman. Sexist perhaps, but it just doesnt sound good, and if I were to hear a woman saying it, it would make me cringe and view her as being a bit rough.

I think you maybe need to talk to him if he's being odd about you now being pregnant - yes you're going to be a mother, ut equally he's going to be a father. If he wants to talk about behaviour and language and how you need to consider your roles in life, then fine - so long as he accepts that it goes both ways. Men can be a bit funny about putting women into pigeon-holes and now you're (almost) a mother it may be changing the way he thinks about you. A gentle reminder that you're the same person you always were might be in order. With (possibly) some friendly chat about how you're both going to have to adjust to being parents.

Cunt is just a word. Just 4 little letters c u n t that are put together to refer to female genitalia.

No worse than nob, dick or fanny.

If dh told me off I'd be dropping cunts into the conversation left, right and centre.

"Cunt is just a word. Just 4 little letters c u n t that are put together to refer to female genitalia"

so you would have no objection to your child saying it then in that case?

Have a T shirt made up with "CUNT" on and wear around the house.

It's a vile word generally said by vile people as a nasty and misogynistic insult.

Tell that to the entire of Scotland, Mal.

How is it misogynistic? We say dick/cock/dickhead/prick.

"so you would have no objection to your child saying it then in that case?"

Only in the sense that it may upset other people. I don't allow my dc to swear as it is ingrained in me that children shouldn't . I do think swearing is overrated though.

As an adult I am careful to only swear with people that won't be offended by it, but I do think people are offended by swearing just because they think they should be. I only find it offensive if someone is calling you a swearword as an insult. But then I would be if someone called me a fat pig and that's not swearing.

Anyway in the OPs case he uses the word himself, so for telling her that she can't swear when he can, he should fuck the fuck off.

Cunt is certainly better and far less apologetic than the vague and invisible options like 'privates', 'bits' or 'down below'. It's more accurate than vagina, where vagina is used to refer to the entirety of female genitalia. It's got more character than its clinical alternatives.

Cunt, a good Anglo-Saxon word, use in abundance.

Round here everyone says cunt, all the time, instead of person. It's totally lost its shock value to me. Eg my boss would say 'it's dead, yous cunts can fuck off' instead of 'it's quite quiet, would you like to leave early?'
YANBU op, say what you like!

It used to shock me too until I watched the Vagina Monologues

Yanbu. It is a horrible word, however as an adult no one has the right to tell you what you can and can't say. He can ask you not to use the word as he finds it unpleasant, however this seems not to be the case since he uses it himself.
I would ask him on what planet does he live that he has the right to tell you what to do?
I have a real bugbear about being told what to do by anyone. I will do anything within reason if asked nicely, but tell me to do it and I'll tell you to fuck right off.