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To ask DH to swap beds with DD?

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oopslateagain · 27/06/2012 10:26

DD has been coming up with little red itchy bumps at night, my first thought was (eek!) fleas or bedbugs, as we have cats and her bed was a secondhand gift from a (very clean!) friend. But we sprayed the entire house with an insecticide, all the cats are frontlined, and the 'bites' aren't every night, she gets half a dozen or so about once every three or four nights.

Went to the doctor yesterday, he said they don't appear to be bites but also don't look like any skin condition he's aware of. He suggested that she sleep in our spare room for about a week, different bedding and my pyjamas. That will pin it down to whether it's bites or not.

After we got home, DD and I were chatting (she's 14), and it suddenly occurred to me that a quicker way of finding out for sure, is for her to sleep with me and for DH to sleep in her bed. He (like DD) is slightly allergic to bites, so if he's bitten overnight and DD isn't then we'll know for certain there's something there; if DD still comes up in the bumps and DH doesn't, then we know it's something else.

DH was out last night, got home at 9.45pm and we sort of sprung it on him. DD was already in our bed but not asleep yet. DH didn't seem too bothered but went off to bed just after 10 so I didn't get a chance to chat properly to him. He didn't look too impressed though.

My mum thinks IABU to ask him to sleep in a room where he's going to potentially get bitten as "he needs his sleep, he goes to work". My friend said her DH would hit the roof if she asked him to do this.

It just seems the quickest and easiest way to find out for sure if there actually is something biting DD, and if DH is bitten even once we will know and can do something about it.

AIBU?

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fedup2012 · 03/07/2012 15:43

See another doctor oops.

Alternatively, you can call the environmental health people, we contacted them once (to my shame) to identify what were, in the end, carpet beetles. We had to send them a sample.

Or invest in a low power microscope - we use it to find nits and watch them die.

oopslateagain · 03/07/2012 15:49

Grin ooh yes, knee length white socks, gets 'em going you know, there'll be no stopping him now!

DD was in my pyjamas so there was no cross-contamination from her room to mine; the only thing she brought into my room was herself and her beloved teddy which had spent 2 hours in the tumble drier and 24 hours in the freezer!

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ChitChatFlyingby · 03/07/2012 16:01

Ok, the bugs aren't in her room, but she is getting bitten elsewhere. So you use an insect repellent, or use a few drops of lavender oil (natural insecticide) in some moisturiser and use that on her. There could be fleas outside from other cats and dogs, it could be a mosquito bite, anything really. But if she reacts like this then you need to do what you can to make sure she doesn't get bitten.

minimisschief · 03/07/2012 16:55

why make a fecking issue when the doctor already gave you one. let her sleep in the spare room for a week.

imnotmymum · 03/07/2012 18:21

But would not clean pyjamas-hers do ?? Really this is bizarre are they really actually bothering her, or becoming inflamed or getting worst the doc should know what it is !

thebody · 03/07/2012 18:28

Sorry but so ha ha ga that you have set up some sort of scientific experiment to see if your dh gets bitten. Fantastic.

oopslateagain · 03/07/2012 19:55

Thanks minimisschief we're a bit past that now Hmm

Chitchat she already uses an insect repellent any time she's going to be near grass, trees, any kind of wildlife etc as she reacts to any bite with a huge itchy welt; I'm not really happy with smothering her in strong chemicals every single day (though she does wear a citronella wristband) so will definitely try the lavender, haven't heard of that but it's nice and safe and I can put it in the rinse water for our washing machine too.

The doctor does know what it is, if anyone missed it earlier we got a second opinion with the full support of our family doctor, it's in my update at 12:39.

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VegansTasteBetter · 03/07/2012 19:57

yanbu

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