to think soon to be ex FIL is wrong to open my mail?

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OK so my mail sometimes ends up at my inlaws ( soon to be ex ) as they live next door and my FIL opens it. It has his address on it but my name due to having had to live there for 7 weeks three years ago .
I recieved a letter from his Solicitor today advising me that FIL had asked him to write to the companies involved informing them that I do not live there.
For him to know the names and addresses of the companies he must have opend my mail. I'm mad that he has opend my mail and mad that he couldn't have mentioned it to me via mail, or his son ( my soon to be ex ).
Am I being unreasonable to ask my Solicitor to write to his complaining that he should not have opend my mail?

It is a criminal offence to open mail addressed to someone else.

I would get your solicitor to write to him to remind him that tampering with other peoples mail is an offence and if you chose, you could report him to the police!

You could instruct your solicitor to counter his request with the information that he is breaking the law by opening your mail and any further suspicions he has done so will result in you opening legal proceedings against him.

The offence of Obstruction of Correspondence (Post Office Act 1953).

Whoever takes any letter, postal card, or package out of any post office or any authorized depository for mail matter, or from any letter or mail carrier, or which has been in any post office or authorized depository, or in the custody of any letter or mail carrier, before it has been delivered to the person to whom it was directed, with design to obstruct the correspondence, or to pry into the business or secrets of another, or opens, secretes, embezzles, or destroys the same, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than five years, or both.

You may, however, prefer the more expedient technique of telling him to fuck the fuck off and leave your mail alone.

NatashaBee that is the funnies thing... made me smile.

My address is up to date but for some unknown reason they still write to me there.

I didn't realise it was a criminal offence, I wonder why his solicitor didn't advise him of this.

hes commiting a criminal offence that strangely has a very high punishment attached to it, its called tampering with the queens mail or something like that and really very very naughty.

his solisiter should have told him this. out of intrest is it only since you fell out with son that he has had a issue with passing it on or has he always been like this?

or you could redirect your post so he doesn't get it at his house ...

actually fuck it im in a bad mood call the fucking police have him nicked and have done with it because hes obviously a twat

That's really not on. I'd be raging if that were me. Send a letter to yourself but to your FIL's address and when he opens it it should read "Stop opening my fucking mail. It's a criminal offence!"

Why is your mail still going there? Three years is plenty of time to have sorted this out and made sure all the people you deal with have your new address.

Or should you have notified these particular companies to take you off their mailing list?

Either way, he should have sent them back marked "return to sender".

Maybe is fed up of getting mail addressed to you and isn't dealing with it correctly.

x post with NatashaBee.

Or of course you could have your own mail redirected.

I doubt he is opening your mail and paying a solicitor to write to you for hte sheer hell of misposted bank statements etc- more like the baliffs have turned up and hes instructed a solicitor.

also how do you know the companies didn't use envelopes with their names on? he wouldn;t NEED to open them would he?

you should inform them you are no longer living there

His solicitor may not have told him this if your FIL claimed to have got the names and addresses off the envelopes. I would very much doubt he actually did get the addresses from there but his solicitor may have warned on the QT but not put it in the letter.

Do you ever get any of this mail back from them? Or do they bin it claim to have sent it back?

I'd be more pissed off the companies concerned hadn't got their act together.

And realistically, the chances of the police being interested let alone a conviction = virtually zero.

It is since I have fallen out with his son.... he has had a decloration of trust I signed, sent from the solicitor we had it drawn up with to his solicitor without my permission.
I also found this out today, so mmmmm maybe the police is sounding like a good idea!

"Send a letter to yourself but to your FIL's address and when he opens it it should read "Stop opening my fucking mail. It's a criminal offence!""

Pure genius.

Sorry, can you re-write that last post, I didnt understand a word of it! :o

I agree you should go to the Post Office and arrange a years postal redirection. It will cost less than a solicitors letter. Then write to each company immediatly with your correct address as the post is redirected to you

I get a bit pissed off getting post for others when they have moved on so m not suprised he has.

Is the name of the company sending the mail not on the envelope?

I guess he could have got the address from the envelopes but why just not return them to me. Is is still keeping my mail from me even if this is the case.

he wouldn;t keep anything from you if YOU didn't get it sent there!