To consider asking that this registrar is not allowed in the room when I'm in labour?

[ontheedgeofwhatever]

I'm under a consultant in this pregnancy but keep seeing his registrar (fair enough). However, I really really do not like her. She treats me like an idiot, seems to know nothing about my condition and has no empathy. I know she's busy but here are some of her comments -

Why are you here - this is an antenatal clinic? (I was 28 weeks pregnant and it was obvious)

At 30 weeks - you're not married are you so how will you support your child (umm dp and I have been together 14 years and have a well supported 6 year old)

If you had a still birth first time why did you get pregnant again? followed a week later by "I see you've already got 2 children to look after that must be tiring" (I've only got one live child and she knows this and had the relevent page of notes open in front of her)

Yesterday she said "oh this liver condition you've got is it the one that makes you itch or something, I'm not really familiar with it". She followed this up with "do you realise we can't induce you today you'll have to wait a few weeks yet as baby not ready to come out yet" When I said I didn't want to be induced at 33 weeks pregnant she said "oh I thought you didn't like the itching so wanted induction today, I thought you may not understand baby isn't ready to be born yet". She also refused to prescribe me a cream recommended by my wonderful midwife to control itching as "Even though it will help I don't really approve of using it because they only finished trial 2 years ago"

Those are just examples I feel as if she has something against me personally. Now have it into my head she'll want to turn up at the birth. To be honest I've got a horrible feeling that if she does my next stop after birth will be a police cell facing assault charges.

What can I do? I seem to be stuck with her. I can cope with her comments at the moment but not sure I'll be able to in labour :(

I'm glad you're going to complain OP. It will hopefully stop future pregnant mothers being on the receiving end of her appalling manner.

Pregnancy is a time when the need for sensitivity is paramount and if you don't have that sensitivity you shouldn't be working with pregnant women!

The fact that others have complained to the midwife but not to anyone else is the reason why this registrar is still at large, hurting people's feelings and causing anxiety and doubt.

Ontheedge - I think you should be very proud of yourself for tackling this. I hope you get the care you deserve from this point forward. You've made a huge difference to all the other women this registrar will come in contact with too in the future. You are obviously not the only one to have experienced this unpleasant treatment. Well done you and good luck with everything!!

Well done for speaking to the midwife OP - She told you you're not the first to complain- they don't usually tell you things like that do they, closed ranks etc.. so she's probably equally disgusted that this witch is behaving this way.
Take care xx

Sorry about your stillbirth

I would also complain about the things this reg has said, they are very unprofessional and insensitive. She needs to be reminded of her duty of care to patients.

I would also include it in your birth plan that you do not want her there.

I hope the rest of your pregnancy and birth go very well and bring you lots of happiness

Apologies, haven't read it all Well done on speaking up!

Glad you have the backing of your MW and that she will help you with your complaint. Really some people are just not suited to being doctors, if they have such a terrible manner - patients are still people!

FX that you get to see the consultant and never have to see this appalling woman again, at least in a professional capacity.

I'm really surprised you didn't complain about her after that stillbirth, how horrendous she should not be in that line of work with so little empathy.