Or selfish here?

[3teenhell]

Me and DP have taken our 4 kids away twice this year. Once at easter in uk and June half term to spain.
Now me and DP are planning a week away on our own in september.
My dad will stay at my house for the week and look after my DC.

DP today has come home and said that he has been told we are selfish for going away without them.
I don't think we are, the fact is we couldn't afford to take them again, it costs a fortune to take all six of us.

Me and DP have only been together for 18 months and always have our kids mine all the time, his every wknd so time alone is minimal.

So come are we selfish?

Given their ages, I'd say it's okay. Had they been little, it's quite a long time but they'll be fine.

Who cares! They're loved, cared for and happy. You're investing some time and money in your new relationship and mental wellbeing. Sounds like a win-win to me..

Not selfish at all and I am very at 3 breaks and 1 not including DC.

DH and I need some time to regroup every now and again.

Where areyou gong?

Go for it OP.

You're kids are plenty old enough for you to have discussed it with them and quite obviously confirmed they are more than happy to be spoiled looked after by their grandad for a week so no issue at all as far as I can see.

This is just yet another area where some joyless fucker will always try and guilt trip you. No idea what their motivation is tbh.

My mother gave me a disappointed cat's bum mouth the other day because I am going away for 1 night, to a city less than 50 miles away, and leaving DS 10 months with his bloody FATHER!

Yep not a babysitter, not even a family member, his actual fricking parent.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Oh and have lovely time. (wish I had a someone to go on a lovely romantic break with

YANBU - hope you both have a lovely, romantic holiday :)

I think it is selfish in a way, but we're all entitled to be selfish sometimes! Just go and enjoy yourselves!

Was meant to add that the kids will be fine and will probably enjoy themselves too!

I never got this, even when i was growing up and other peoples parents went away with out them i didnt get it.

If I go away I would feel like I am leaving the kids out, I want them to have the experiences with us. Together as a family I agree with this. A whole holiday away is different from one night imo.

Totally not selfish.
My Dparents did this all the time. I don't think we even noticed they were gone terribly much, as long as we were happy with the GPs! I am longing to do this, just spend time with DH, but with no family nearby it's not possible.

Go, have a great time and tell this stickybeak holier-than-thou git to sod himself.

I too think you should go. I'd jump at the chance of a week away, just dh and I.
We get a weekend every year to ourselves and it's just so liberating.

It's selfish...but I think it's totally the kind of selfish it is ok to be.

Have a good break. x

I do see where you're coming from Nailak but when I was the age of the OP's kids I would have loved a week with my grandparents.

In fact I regularly did spend a week with them just for fun.

i think my Dc will think its a break to have mum not nagging all week about homework and bedrooms!!

I want to experiance holidays with my children too, thats why they have been on 2 this year

pissydust just for you i'll be going to tenerife, only cos we have free accomadation there, so makes it cheap

after the morning i have had it will be a week of of

oh and mydog my ex MIL sounds like your mum, cats bum mouth all over the place. Gladly no longer see her

She's an oxymoron and no mistake!

Withing 10 minutes she had simultaneously tutted at my still having his cot in my room, and leaving him overnight because he'll miss me

Luckily I stopped paying attention long ago!

I'm quite sure you know your kids well enough to know how they feel about it so don't let anyone else tell you any different.

Enjoy

god i hope i never turn into a MIL like that!!

thank you we will enjoy now that mumsnet jury has said its ok and i'm not the worst mum ever!