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To dread the thought of a second maternity leave?

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grobagsforever · 25/06/2012 12:13

DD is 22 months. She sleeps throughout the night and naps once a day. She can talk and is interesting. I am back at work three days a week and love having the mental stimulation. I can out in the evening if I want to. But..the question of a second child is becoming pressing. The fact is I don't want to spend a year at hone looking a baby and a toddler. I survived mat leave first time but hanging out with NCT buddies a lot. But you can't just trail a toddeler everywhere like you can a baby. I'm just not sure I could cope with the isolation and lack of working outside the hone. Or the exhaustion and lack of social life. But I'd hate for DD not to have a sibling. Asking DP to take on childcare isn't really an option as I would want to BF exclusively for six months and then do BLW after that, in fact DD is still BF...

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LucieMay · 25/06/2012 23:10

Just got their ages wrong, that should be 40 and 42. Oops!

lowfatiscrap12 · 26/06/2012 14:10

'My brother and sister argued a lot with each other, but never with me!'

Sounds eerily familiar, lol! My eldest two bicker lots, but they both adore their baby sister and I suspect the large gap means she'll never be seen as competition and will be too young to argue over the same things!

Rosebud05 · 26/06/2012 14:16

Maybe re-evaluate what you mean by 'fairness' between siblings for childcare?

I have a 2 year gap and my mat leave/childcare arrangements have been and are different - circumstances change, it's about balancing everyone's needs.

If you're a happier person for going back to work earlier, then that's definitely in your children's interests.

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