AIBU to be worried about engagement rings?

[Keraxy]

I'm a bit worried about what it might look like. I have a very clear idea about what I'd like and, however much I love my DP, his taste is shocking. I don't want to end up with a stinker of a ring- in the nicest possible way!- for the rest of my life.

It seems overly presumptuous to tell him directly what sort of ring I'd like seeing as he hasn't proposed whilst sober but I want to steer him!

I know I should love his choice etc but AIBU to worry I might end up wearing a piece of crap for the rest of my life?!

Incidentally, I'm not fussed about its monetary worth. He's talking about 6 weeks' wages, which is 'apparently' standard. I don't care how much it costs as long as it's pretty!

My OH is in the Navy and he went away in May for 4 months, all leave in the few days prior was cancelled due to them being late going away. He got permission to come home abd flew back a long way for one day to ask me to marry him.

The ring is amazing but him asking was more so as he Sid he could never get married again - am still reeling but haven't seen him since .

Said he would doh!

We went together to Hatton Gardens and got exactly the ring off my dreams, a trilogy with the two side stones in a tear shape. We had temporary rings before that which were from half price jewellers as we were poor students, so it was nice to upgrade to the same thing, but more substantial, when we could afford it.

I think it is important to make sure it is something you love, not learn to love. Almost every other jewellery item he has bought since that ring has not been my taste, and it doesn't seem to matter that I take him to a store nd point out all the things I like, old fashioned items... hea lways goes stylish and modern and I am getting tired of pretending to like his choices that don't match my style. I would have been really sad not to have something that I wear every day in my own taste.

sensuallettuce, that's amazing! Congratulations

You too Freesea!

More than 20 years ago ours was about a month of DH's pay. He proposed and said I suppose I need to get you a ring now. He then said "do you think you will want to go to more than one shop?" When I said yes of course, probably loads, he said "well you go and chose what you want and I'll go and pay for it then". And he did and he collected it and put it on my finger when he brought it home. He doesn't like shopping - it means I have more control .

Richard Ogden are good and their stones are reliable. A jeweller friend once told me never ever go to Hatton Garden and have things made up because too often people are given a lot of patter and sold less than high quality stones (unless they know what they are doing and have studied some gemology) - I was advised instead that better value would be had via the jewellers in and around Burlington Arcade/Bond Street because there are so many of them, they all have sound reputations and they have to be competitive. They also all sell less expensive items.

We saw my ring when we were out together one day and we weren't even looking for it. We just looked in the shop window and both commented on it at the same time, great minds!!!! Certainly wasn't 6 months wages, but my now-dh still had to pay for it weekly, we had no money to spare but I loved the ring and the jeweller was so kind and put it by for us. It hasn't been off my finger since, just loved it from the minute I saw it.... (bit like dh too, really.....aww)