I've started taking 3yo DS swimming at our local YMCA when they open up half the pool to family swim time. Woman at the desk said as he's under 4 I can take him into the girls locker room (we're in America), I didn't even know there was a separate "family" one.
Never had a problem until last week when we went at the same time as a few swimming lessons. After our swim we were getting changed and two mums and their daughters (not aged more than 5/6) shrieked when they came round the corner and saw my DS, hurried the girls back to the showers which are seperated from the changing area saying things like "dOnt take your costumes off, shower with your clothes off, we'll all have showers at home" and responding when the girls asked why with "there's a boy in the changing room".
DS is quite tall but the way he was acting was clearly young - but I said to the mum that he was three, pointed out the sign that said boys under 4 could be in there and she gave me AND HIM a filthy look and said "I'm just pointing it out." DS picked up on it, thought he'd dOne something wrong
AIBU to be really cross about this? The girls didn't look bothered, DS certainly wasn't bothered about getting changed in front of anyone and anyway we were nearly finished and would have been out the door by the time they'd had their showers (which you can't see from the changing area).
I thought it was just sad and unnecessary considering the ages of the children, but maybe I'm being insensitive?
Obviously we'll use the family locker rooms from now on