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Original poster

for lying to my friends to go home early on a night out in town

33 replies

MistyRocks · 23/06/2012 09:58

i went out with some friends last night and we had all been looking forward to it and planning it for ages

however i was bored by about 10pm. the music was too loud, my feet were hurting, i was tired, we couldn't even talk as it was so loud and there was just no vibe IYSWIM. and all i kept thinking was, i'm going to be knackered all day tomorrow and have a hangover for the sake of a shit night.

so i feigned an emergency at home Blush about half 11 and went home

i feel REALLY bad for lying to them all and also wondering if i am Just Getting Too Old for nights out in town now especially given the reasons above why i wasnt enjoying it

rock n roll eh. god 5 years ago i used to be out till 6am most friday nights.

OP posts:
squeakytoy · 23/06/2012 10:00

I wouldnt have lied, I would have just said I was knackered and been honest.

TodaysAGoodDay · 23/06/2012 10:04

I would have done the same thing TBH.

AlpinePony · 23/06/2012 10:04

Yanbu. In. The. Slightest.

I get mithered past 9.

Sarcalogos · 23/06/2012 10:11

Yanbu, I'm not even that old and I hate nights out like that. I'm definitely in the 'not fun, going home' camp.

ErikNorseman · 23/06/2012 10:13

YAnbu!
did you know you can strike out whole sentences now?

rookiemater · 23/06/2012 10:14

YANBU I ducked out of a drinks after work thing this week for someone I really like because a) I hate pubs b) I hate standing up in pubs c) I can't hear other people in pubs because of music and noise and d) I begrudge paying money for drinks and e) I had the car and hate staying sober listening to drunk people . I lied and said I had to pick up DS although DH was doing it as if you say you just don't want to go people seem to think its their moral duty to talk you into going out.

Once you get to a certain age your tastes change and also as I don't have loads of free time I'm quite ruthless about keeping it to do things I actually enjoy.

I am taking said person out for lunch though as I like sitting down and eating.

planetpotty · 23/06/2012 10:16

Hmmm did you go straight out to bars?

Maybe it would be better to go for a meal (can just have starters if a but much) and a few wines get the catch up bit out of the way - then said wine should have you nicely warmed up for the dancing shoes part of the night.

YANBU for just going home in our circle of friends people are starting to go home earlier and want us all to go Hmm (share taxis etc) one friend and I are always miffed when this happens as we don't get out anywhere near as much as the others .....ahhhh getting older Grin

MorrisZapp · 23/06/2012 10:16

Yanbu.

I do it with increasing frequency.

I seem to have lost that mechanism where the alcohol kicks in and suddenly you're having a great time. Instead, I'm chucking it down my throat knowing that all its going to do for me is make me feel crap the next day.

glenthebattleostrich · 23/06/2012 10:50

The only reason I agree to meet friends for a night out now is that I can use the excuse I have to leave at 10:30 for the last train. I really can't be arsed with over priced drinks, packed pubs, being groped by sad arseholes and shit music.

I'd much rather go for a nice meal and catch up with decent food and wine. We generally do this now and if anyone wants to go out 'properly' after they can so we all get the best of both worlds :)

Guava · 23/06/2012 12:33

YABU. Just say you're tired and are going home. If they're real friends they will understand.

PuppyMonkey · 23/06/2012 12:39

I did the " have to pick up DD" White lie at a works do last week, I just couldn't be arsed with it, so stayed for one drink then boggered off home to a decent glass of wine and Corrie.

smoggii · 23/06/2012 12:41

Lol...I did this a couple of times now i just don't agree to nights out!

Days out yes, meals out lovely, nights out, nope!

Tee2072 · 23/06/2012 12:43

Well, I wouldn't lie. But I always go home early!

qo · 23/06/2012 12:44

Last time I went out, I was freezing cold, uncomfortable in a dress and heels, and spent all night wishing I was at home in my comfy pyjamas and slippers watching TV in my warm house. I went home early too!

I'm not even 40 for another couple of months but yes my going out days are over Grin

lilypainter · 23/06/2012 12:45

YANBU to want to go home - but I think YABU for lying about having an emergency at home.

Why not just tell them you need to go home because you're tired?

Nancy66 · 23/06/2012 12:56

why lie? They'll have known you were lying....just say 'i'm off, i'm knackered' what's the probelem with that?

qo · 23/06/2012 13:14

I've lied to go home early, it saves the nagging that ensues

Original poster
MistyRocks · 24/06/2012 09:48

exactly qo

also i wouldn't want to be seen as boring or a lightweight

OP posts:
Guava · 24/06/2012 18:04

Who cares if other people think you're boring or a lightweight? Why should it affect you? Just ignore any nagging.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 24/06/2012 18:07

One of the great things about being an adult, is, in my opinion, the ability to go home when you've got the most enjoyment out of an evening that you are going to have.

I suspect I'm a "boring lightweight" though

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 24/06/2012 18:10

I've always hated noisy pubs, standing in pubs, trying to talk to people by shouting in their ears, going home with ears ringing. Such a relief to stop pretending and do things I want to, or simply go home when I've had enough

Mrsjay · 24/06/2012 18:12

Yanbu i would have made an excuse Blush last time i was out i said i had somewhere to go in the morning and was home before 12 ,

Downandoutnumbered · 24/06/2012 18:35

YANBU to go home, at all (I would have done the same). Standing up in pubs is grim, not being able to hear what people are saying is grim, loud music is grim. But then I've always been a boring lightweight.

YABU to lie about an emergency at home, though.

Guava · 24/06/2012 18:36

I'm definitely a boring lightweight :o And I don't care!

curiositykitten · 24/06/2012 18:37

You are unreasonable to lie, but not to want to go home. You are an adult and should have just told them you were not in the mood/tired/wanted to go home.

I hope this emergency you invented didn't leave them worrying for you in any way.