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To be pissed off that DP didn't even acknowledge my exam results today?

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 20:12

I last saw DP (or boyfriend as we're not living together) last Tuesday. Before he left on Tuesday I reminded him that my exam results were coming out Friday (as in today) and so would he fancy going out for a drink to either celebrate or cheer me up depending on the results! He said he would (but gut feeling told me he didn't really fancy it at all). Since then I've not heard a thing from him (since Tuesday). Today he texts me asking generally how I am - seemed more like a "better make an effort, have not text her for days" type text. No mention of exam results OR going out. I replied that I was ok but didn't mention the results. Since then numerous things have been posted on Facebook about exam results, he WILL have seen them (well, he always seems to see other stuff I write so no idea why this should be any different) and still nothing.

Anyway he's just text with some crap about "you'll be having an early night I bet, all that study and work lol" and I replied "no actually, I'm going out with my friends to celebrate my exam results - assumed you didn't fancy it as I'd not heard from you". He has just replied that he was waiting for me to say something about going out and as I hadn't been on facebook lately (I have but not to chat) he didn't get chance to mention it himself Hmm presumably his mobile phone has been unable to text the words "exams" or "drinks" in the past 3 days then?

I'm having a shit time in general so am quite possibly being out of order. AIBU?

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DashingRedhead · 22/06/2012 20:13

No. He's being feeble.

stifnstav · 22/06/2012 20:19

Do your phones not have the ability to call one another? Its a bit weird that you haven't rung each other since Tuesday (I know its only 3 days but still).

If I thought I could manage not talking to my boyfriend for three days I'd probably wonder why I was with him?!

Before DH and I lived together (ah, the early days of romance!) I would have been gagging to see him or speak to him!

You don't seem that bothered!

FeakAndWeeble · 22/06/2012 20:19

Nope. He sounds like a selfish twat.

JumpingThroughHoops · 22/06/2012 20:20

I don't think he''s that into you TBH. Hope you meet someone nicer tonight Grin

squeakytoy · 22/06/2012 20:22

It really doesnt sound like much of a relationship if you only communicate by text once a week or so..

RandomMess · 22/06/2012 20:22

Time to move on to someone who cares. Good luck for tonight and congratulations on your exam results!

PooPooInMyToes · 22/06/2012 20:29

Is the relationship coming to an end?

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 20:32

Thanks everyone. I used to be the one that texts all the time but I just can't be arsed anymore. I'm sick of doing all the work. Everytime we do anything it's me that has to suggest it and me that has to arrange it. He's now saying he "was" going to mention it this morning but didn't get the chance as I never responded to his initial text Hmm wouldn't a normal person put it IN the initial text?? and that doesn't explain why he never mentioned it during our "text conversation" this afternoon in which 3 texts and replies were sent and received.

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 20:33

He obviously forgot about the results - either that or didn't mention them incase I initiated the "night out" during the conversation.

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PooPooInMyToes · 22/06/2012 20:34

Yeah don't do all the arranging, you're not his mum.

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 20:40

Well it's getting a bit bloody ridiculous. He now wants me to sort out an ING savings account in my name so I can save up HIS money for him. He nags me about it constantly "have you set that account up yet? I have money to put in it" He has an ING account of his own, why can't he save up his own bloody money???

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RandomMess · 22/06/2012 20:41

sounds like a manchild looking for a new mummy...

MooncupGoddess · 22/06/2012 20:44

Oh God, life is too short to have a relationship with a twat like this.

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 20:47

well now he's sent me a text asking for my exam results Hmm I told him (67%) and he's all "oh that's amazing!" no it isn't, it's shit. I could really have done with some support tonight. What's the point in being in a relationship with they're not there when you need them the most? I'm not really going out to be honest, I just told him that so it didn't seem like I was waiting around for his company Sad

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PooPooInMyToes · 22/06/2012 20:50

Why on earth does he want the account in your name!?

I would have lied about going out as well.

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 21:12

Because he reckons he won't save up if the money is left with him Hmm

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PooPooInMyToes · 22/06/2012 21:23

Then he needs to stop being a fucking pussy and take responsibility for himself.

avivabeaver · 22/06/2012 21:23

is 67% shit? really?

he sounds like an arse and hard work- sounds like a great time for you to move on.

And can I say well done on your exam results? Dont know what level you are studying at but have never heard of 67% ever not being a very respectable pass

Xales · 22/06/2012 21:27

Check that if he puts money into an account in your name if it is classed as income for you and you will be taxed?

Also unless there is something in writing that is your account and your money (not morally though). If there is nothing in writing and something happens to you how would he get it back Grin

He sounds a bit wet. What is hard about a standing order into an account/ISA you can't withdraw from for 3 years?

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/06/2012 21:31

He's an idiot. But you know that. Get rid.

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BloodyCrossRoads · 22/06/2012 22:36

He text "Shame about tonight, I really fancied a drink too"

So I replied "well you should have said"

He replied "you could have too"

So I said "well I thought you would have mentioned my exam results without me having to bring it up." - funnily enough, no reply to that.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 22/06/2012 22:38

Do you want to be with him? It all sounds like hard work.

MrsAmaretto · 22/06/2012 22:43

Enough of this nonsense. Pick up your phone and talk to him like a grown up or are you 14?

Sounds like your fed up with him so have a proper think about what you want from a relationship and take it from there.

67% sounds like a good pass to me so congratulations. Go head out with your friends who care about your success, not waiting for him to text.

MsVestibule · 22/06/2012 22:46

Seriously, BCR, ditch him. It doesn't sound as though you're mad about him, anyway. How long have you been seeing him for? Is this the sort of man you want to be with long term?

Any man worth bothering with wants to see you, to talk to you and is interested in the important stuff in your life without being prompted. Game playing (e.g. telling him you're going out when you're not) makes you feel crap, so just get out of this "relationship". You won't regret it, and I speak from experience .

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BloodyCrossRoads · 23/06/2012 11:53

Update:

Well after me saying I was going out without him last night, he decided he DID want to take me for a drink, just that he was expecting ME to mention it first Hmm. I knew he was working tonight anyway so arranged to go out with friends tonight - he's now asking if we could meet up when he finishes work at 9pm. Errr I'm going out with the girls and you want to suddenly tag along? Hmm

He's now saying we should go out for a drive sunday. I've told him I'm busy starting my assignment and had already planned to start that Sunday. He's now kicking right off saying I'm selfish and he won't get to see me at all this weekend and it should have been last night we went out. I reminded him that had he bothered to contact me about my exam results, it WOULD have been last night.

So am I being in the wrong here making myself unavailable all weekend out of principle? I know I can be a stubborn bitch but I am pissed off.

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