To be pissed off that DP didn't even acknowledge my exam results today?

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I last saw DP (or boyfriend as we're not living together) last Tuesday. Before he left on Tuesday I reminded him that my exam results were coming out Friday (as in today) and so would he fancy going out for a drink to either celebrate or cheer me up depending on the results! He said he would (but gut feeling told me he didn't really fancy it at all). Since then I've not heard a thing from him (since Tuesday). Today he texts me asking generally how I am - seemed more like a "better make an effort, have not text her for days" type text. No mention of exam results OR going out. I replied that I was ok but didn't mention the results. Since then numerous things have been posted on Facebook about exam results, he WILL have seen them (well, he always seems to see other stuff I write so no idea why this should be any different) and still nothing.

Anyway he's just text with some crap about "you'll be having an early night I bet, all that study and work lol" and I replied "no actually, I'm going out with my friends to celebrate my exam results - assumed you didn't fancy it as I'd not heard from you". He has just replied that he was waiting for me to say something about going out and as I hadn't been on facebook lately (I have but not to chat) he didn't get chance to mention it himself presumably his mobile phone has been unable to text the words "exams" or "drinks" in the past 3 days then?

I'm having a shit time in general so am quite possibly being out of order. AIBU?

As someone who spent three years with a self obsessed idiot and then finally got together with my wonderful DH (who I'd known for two of those years) I'd say stop wasting your time playing who is more important games and find a guy that puts you first and who you want to put first.

Well apparantly it's all my fault as I should have mentioned my exam results (again) and I should have mentioned about going out (again) and I should make time to go out with him at some other point during this weekend.

Bollocks to this. I've had enough.

Oh I'm getting the ex thrown in my face now -

"you contact "phil" more than you contact me"
"no I don't, however he DID ask me about my exam results without me having to remind him first" --- maybe shouldn't have said that, bit below the belt maybe but I really have had enough.

Got to ask how old is he? Sounds like a child rather than an adult.

Were these OU results? Regardless, well done and go out enjoy yourself and sod him ;)

It's not OU, it's a nursing degree and such hard work I'm so tempted just to chuck the whole thing and apply at Tesco. That really is how I feel right now.

But thanks Zippy :) he's 39 btw.

39!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For goodness sake ditch him

You need someone loving, helpful and supportive!

Blimey I thought you were going to say he was early 20's or something.

Definately time he grew up.

Nursing seems hard enough without having to look after a grown up at home too.

Yes, 39 and he reckons the only reason he never mentioned it was because I wasn't on Facebook for the past 3 nights. Yes he has my mobile number and yes I repeat, he is 39. Facebook for gods sake.

I think it's time for the immortal words 'I'm afraid it's just not working'.

I was thinking the same thing MooncupGoddess.

He's gone 'offline' now due to having to go to work but before he left he said - of tonight - "well, as long as it isn't some bloke taking you out to cinema or for a meal" He doesn't give a shit about me really, does he.

No, it sounds like he just likes the ego-boost of having a girlfriend.

Tell him you're being taken out for dinner by the most attractive man you've ever met, to be followed by a multi-orgasmic sex session. Then block him.

67% is fantastic at degree level, congratulations!

I'd dump him. Life's too short to be with people that take up so much mental energy.

Definitely finish this. Life is too short to be playing silly games about who should or shouldn't have arrange to go out. If a relationship is right this just doesn't happen.
And asking you to save for him at 39?????? Alarm bells are ringing!
You sound a bit low and he's not helping.
Congratulations on your results - go and have a good weekend with people who care about you!

I hope the sex is amazing, because this all just seems like a great big load of hassle for very little reward! What exactly are you getting out of this relationship?

(I'm making a joke about the sex! I don't really think that good sex is a reason to stay in a crap relationship! Best make that clear lest I get my arse handed to me )