to be disappointed

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So I am 30 weeks pregnant and its our 11th wedding anniversary on Sunday.
I admit I have arranged to work for a few hours in the afternoon. I am self employed so could have declined event. Choose not to as its only a small local Fete. I was working on basis that we could all go.
So this evening dh said he was thinking of taking dc somewhere else when I am working but had a rethink as there is a Grand Prix and football on.
So it would seem dh plans to spend a large part of our wedding anniversary watching sport.
AIBU to be disappointed.

But you're working anyway?

Will he be watching sport all evening too?

YABU, after all you are planning on spending a number of hours working when you could have chosen not to. Why not arrange to go out on another night?

Yabu!!!

YANBU. Have you seen this? You aren't alone. But can you spend some time together in the evening?

You were "working on the basis that".

Did you actually ask him about his preferences for the day, before you made a work commitment?

England's match is on Sunday evening.

Can't you celebrate on a different night?

You are working so why on earth does it matter...

I can't believe the Daily Fail says the man didn't "choose wisely"

If I was married to a control freaking nutter who did that to me, I'd rather watch the match too.

Work is 4 hours max in the afternoon.

You expect him to hang around some 'fete' with the kids for 4 hours??!

I did broach subject of working on that day and dh didn't have a problem with it.

Did you discuss any of this with him before you decided to go to work?

Not for 4 hours but putting in an appearance would be nice.

You seem to have decided what you wanted to do and made plans without asking him. Perhaps if you had discussed it beforehand, you might have been able to make better arrangements...?

Maybe the kids and him dont want to go to the fete either though..

Yes but when you broached the subject of working, did you make it quite clear that it meant him and the kids would have to attend too?

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Did you make it clear that you expected them all to go too when you "broached the subject"?

If I was married to a control freaking nutter who did that to me, I'd rather watch the match too

Me too.

You're doing what you want to do but your DH can't do the same? If your anniversary was so important you wouldn't be working.

Maybe I didn't make it clear enough squitten and worra. Guess I just though dh might want to take the children somewhere nice instead of watching Grand Prix.
I suppose I am hormonal but there is history ie going to football matches on Valentines day etc.

I agree it sounds as if there's been some kind of misunderstanding. He thought you were working so arranged the sport. Everybody's life seems to be totally dominated by sport at the moment. Couldn't believe football again tonight.

I imagine kids would prefer fete but can't ask them as dh made it clear he doesn't want to go. As they are 5 and 6 I can't realistically take them and work at the same time.

That would explain afternoon but evening too vivienne

Why is everyone so down on football?

Maybe it was my mistake choosing a wedding date in June.