to name and shame the mum who is not nit combing her kids

[msrantsalot]

I am sick of combing nits out my DD's hair, and I know where they are coming from, this mum claims that she treats her kids regularly but you can see the lice from 2 feet away and the kids are absolutely crawling. Every time my kid play with hers she comes back infested and I am sick of it.

She sounds charming.

Holidays? Do you live in the UK?

scotland

My only advise is to tie your dds hair tightly in plaits and make her wear a cap if she plays with them. Or don't let her play with them. Sounds like lost cause.

What about the Dad?

I told my dd as she got older to keep her head away from her mates and also i found great success in scraping her hair back into a pony tail and plaiting it. Stopped her recatching it.

I dont like the idea of ostricising-sp? a child because of their parents poor hygiene though,seems a bit nasty to me.

Me too ledkr. I can't imagine how awful a child would feel if they were isolated because of their mothers negligence.
My DD hasn't had nits for about a year now thank goodness. When she did get them regularly, it was a PITA to comb, but not the end of the world.

If your child is catching nits from a neighbour,and the children are not in the same class at school,it is not really a school issue for you.It would be for the other parents who have children in the other childs class,but not for you.
Personally,I would let the issue calm down for about 3 days,and then ask the mother if you could do her childs nits,when you do your own childs.
She may object,or she may be grateful.
I realise that is not ideal,and of course,you may not want or be willing to do it.But personally for me,having your child have nits for weeks on end would be draining.

If the mother won't speak to you anymore and her kids aren't allowed in your house, then how are you going to iron out any other problems that crop up?

Stop your kids from going there!!

Tell them not to put their heads together!!
The mother might well be treating them regularly but lice can build up immunity, in which case she needs to go to the doctor who will give her something different..

I think nit combing them is probably a good idea although the mother may go mental at yo
u, I think nits shouldn't be taboo in schools and i do think that it is a public health problem I know that sounds dramtic but parents who treat and comb are wasting their time if the children who arn't treated are just infecting them all again , I still don't think you should name her though as somebody else said it will get back to the children in the playground

Try combing through tea tree head lice conditioner and then plaiting your daughters hair. They don't seem to like crawling in it then.

When the same kid was constantly reinfecting my daughter, I washed her hair less often (I think clean hair is more tempting to the little critters) and put in teatree conditioner and plaited back at least the top half. Little buggers left her alone - but that might just have been chance!

However letters were coming back from school every week - and it was so obviously the same kid who wasn't being treated.

Oh and other kids will know - if the parents can see it two feet away, then so will the other kids. DD knew which kid had the nits.

Thats really shit that the school says it not thier problem, surely they have to take some resposibility towards the other children.

DD's school send home regular letters if there is an out break.

We are told if any child is found to have lice in school then parents will be called and ask to take them home, They are not allowed back until they have been treated.

If the lice can be seen from 2 feet away Then its pretty serious. How can the school just ignore this??

If your DD is going to continue to play with this wee girl, then use tea tree shampoo and conditioner as already suggested. I use to buy a leave in spray conditioner for DD and spray her hair every morning before school....which helped alot.

Also tie DD's hair up as tight as you can and if needs be use a bandana to cover her hair.
DD used to love wearing these as i have all different colours to match her outfits, Either partially cover with a triangle or full cover Pirate style.

It really does help

yes to the bandana . the schools break up today or next week in scotland these kids are going to be in and out all summer
, can you maybe keep them away i know they are her friends but maybe let them play in the garden and not come round as much try and be busy
, that sounds a horrible thing to do poor kids it really isn't their fault but why should your daughter suffer,
I discovered it was somone in dd1s class that was infested and dd2s hair is thick and curly combing was a nightmare, and it wasn't until dd1 went up to high school i managed to clear them up. little bastards the nits not the children

You absolutely cannot nit comb somebody else's child without their and their parent's consent.Lets just get that clear.

Our school have a polict that children are sent home if licve lice are discovered.i would ask for a copy of the relevant school policy, and also the phone number of the school nursing service, saying you will be ringing them for advice.that alone will probably spur them into action.

we're not allowed to send kids home for nits anymore.

if my dcs were playing at a friends and got 'nit combed' i'd be livid whether they needed it or not.

thanks for all the advice, however the mum is now in custody for negligence and the kids have been removed from the home, obviously the nits were the least of the problems.

Sounds like more neglect, I would alert social services.

Bizarrely I was about to post contact SS because dc have a constant infestation of head lice is neglect.

Squirt your DD with anti nit stuff before she plays with her friend. You can use mixes which have lavender, tea tree oil, vosene do an anti nit spray and I have read they don't like hairspray either.

From experience i can say tying hir back does help reduce the incidence of headlice infection but I can categorically state that a wee boy with a very short, ie number 3 buzz cut, can still get them!! ( I could see the wee blighters wriggling around the hair stuble )
I can also state that its not always poor, neglected, single parent kids who suffer from lice.
I have known middle class children at fee paying ( and very posh ) schools who have been loupin'

I feel really sorry for her kids. From what you describe she will never admit there is a problem or be arsed to do anything about it.

Her priorites in life are completely different to yours. Sadly that means her kids will continue to suffer. It is neglect and SS probably know the family well.

The only solution is to keep your kids away

Oops just noticed SS have taken action

Seriously, SS have taken action over our worst offender for nits and other things.

However, DDs class still have them. A low level of the little blighters seems to be unavoidable.

It really isn't worth getting so wound up about.

Poor kid!