to think that school have lost the plot over Fathers Day

[mollyvickers]

Have changed name for this. DCs school (infant) did not make Fathers Day cards, so as not to discriminate against children who do not have fathers. This is a new policy- in previous years we have always been presented with lovely Mothers / Fathers days cards.

??? why would you namechange for this?

are you sure that's the reason

we didn't do anything with my brownies because I forgot I couldn't think of a suitable craft that we hadn't done in the previous 3 years (I run on a 4 year cycle so I know the brownies won't have done an activity before)

Why on earth have you named changed?

I think that sounds very sensible of the school. If your children had no dad, would you like them watching other children make cards for theirs?

Name changed? Why, hoping to start another fight? They were done last weekend when it was fathers day....

Oh FFS

Is it bash single mothers week?? Sponsored by the daily mail, are we?

Yest thats the reason. Name changed because I know some mums at the school are mnetters and pretty sure that not many schools will have banned them for such a ridiculous reason.

What exactly is ridiculous about being sensitive to the feelings of children who may have been bereaved?

Yeah, I'll go out on a limb and say YABU.

My daughter's school used to do 'wonderful women' and 'marvellous men' instead of mother's and father's day. They changed it to the more traditional mothers & fathers days and I actually found myself feeling a bit sad because before it was celebrating all sorts of families in different shapes and sizes and now it's all a bit twee for my liking. Seriously, if you're too sophisticated for 'marvellous men'/ 'wonderful women' then you should at least pretend to be a little bit aloof about cheesy old mothers/ fathers day???

We had this at nursery school. One year the school asked dcs to bring in pictures of the dads to make fathers' day cards for. They didn't do the same for mothers' day so I complained that it was discriminatory. The school disagreed as the only person affected in the year was ds.

What is ridiculous?

How many marriages end up in divorce these days?

No reason why the kids with no dads at home couldn't make a father's day card for the other male role models in their lives.

I do find it a bit odd that schools do mother's day cards and not father's day cards though. What about DCs with no mums? DH was a bit sad not to get a handmade card because I also forgot but I got a lovely one for mother's day.

YABU

Not every fatherless child will have a male "role model" to make a card for gallicgirl

Maybe your school looked at the school /absent father stats and made a decision based on that?

You've had all week to ask them..

who gives a shiny shit really. Mother's day i expect my husband to take the kids to get me a card ( nothing else just a simple 59p card from card factory) father's day i take the kids to get father's day.

I would rather my chldren learn in school.

I dont remember mentioning single mums. No every home without a mum is a single parent one. Some homes have no mums because they have two fathers and vice versa. I know a couple of both, and they, I am pretty sure appreciate the sentiments of the cards make in school. They could easily make Mothers/ Fathers day or 'a card for someone you would like to say I love you / thank you to' cards if they want to be sensitive.

You smell of fiction.

And you could just as easily make one yourself and let the school get on with the teaching.

My ds has always been okay with father's day. He's six and hasn't seen his dad since he was a baby. The school or nursery have always been sensitive to his situation and he's simply brought home a card for his grandad or uncle instead.

I lost my dad when I was 6. His death, though not entirely unexpected (by the adults in the family) was sudden. I had to watch other kids make father's day cards. On most occasions I was able to do one for my grandad instead. There was never a question of the practice being stopped to preserve my feelings. Now there are more children who don't know their dad etc it is a thorny issue. On the one hand you don't want to upset the families where dad is still in the kids lives and stop the fun for those children. But on the other side the opposite end of the spectrum is a sizeable minority and not just an oddity like I was. I'm glad I teach post compulsory and we don't have to make cards anymore!

I though it was strange. I dont get to the school that often, when I enquired that was what I was told. No, the school is heavily weighted to two parent families, whether that be first/ second etc marriages.

They dont have to make Fathers Day cards, they can make cards for other members of the family/ friends / club leaders etc. It is possible to penalise chldren who do have fathers / male rolemodels too.

My situation was similar to yours DrCoconut, definitely in terms of being an oddity.

Fortunately, I'm old and Father's day hadn't really been invented because I didn't have any male figures in my family and it would have broken my heart to have watched other children make cards for their dads.

If it bothers you give your kids a bunch of craft stuff and get them to make them at home.

If this is an issue that bothers you I suspect that your dc are otherwise happy at school! If they werent happy at school I doubt you would bother to fuss about this issue.

Get passed this please...whinge to the school in the run up to Father`s Day next year!