AIBU to ban DH from using the bathroom?

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EVERY effing time he goes upstairs he wakes the baby. Wtf is he doing up there?! Me, I can use the bathroom and even flush the toilet without waking her. But DH? No matter when in the evening he goes up to the loo she wakes up crying! He comes down and says "it wasn't me, I didn't make a noise." So it's just a bloody coincidence then?! Every single time?! It wouldn't be too much of a problem if she could self-soothe but she feeds to sleep. So bloody muggins me ends up sitting in the nursery for another 45 mins trying to get her back down while he enjoys his evening downstairs.

His response when I just told him he was banned from going to the loo when she was in bed?

"What do you want me to do? Shit on the floor in the lounge?"

Maybe he does it deliberately so he gets the TV to himself.

Maybe it would be a good opportunity for him to learn to settle your daughter without a feed. I think you will suddenly find he is quieter

Assuming she doesn't need feeding EVERY time she wakes up, then he wakes her, he settles her. Simple. Then he might learn to tiptoe!!!

Get him a litter tray

Worra!

Stop feeding to sleep and start reminding him to use toilet before the baby goes to bed. Tell him that if he wakes her he'll have to soothe her.

I am working on stopping feeding to sleep so fingers crossed before too long I will be able to enforce the 'you wake her you settle her' rule!

I just don't know what he does up there!

She feeds to sleep because you enable that.

Helpful jumping

I never managed to get any of my babies off the feed to sleep, until they grew out of it

my dh was in bathroom for 35 mins last nite

Ooh always forget
Yanbu

How old is your DD? Mine stopped falling asleep while feeding at 4 1/2 months, but I had no other way to settle her DP was far better at shushing / rocking etc :) We were lucky that she started to self settle not too long after that, though.

More helpfully, I agree with Worra

Invest in man-size nappies :-)

Yadnbu
My sodding Dh still does this with dd and she's nearly three. He even shouts me from other rooms and bangs about in the kitchen. I could have killed him over this numerous times.

svrider DH is like that. He comes home from work and goes upstairs to go to the loo and get changed. An hour later he reappears downstairs. "Where've you been?" I ask, frazzled from dealing with DD all day plus an extra hour. "I was just getting changed," comes the reply. "For an hour?!" "Well I went to the loo as well."

Plus he goes while he runs her bath, then again while I'm putting her down. I don't think it's unfair to think that less than an hour later than that he shouldn't need to go yet again!

Hmmm.

Find some web page that says going so often is a sign of a terrible illness and threaten him with all types of invasive testing?

an evil one that is.

Perhaps getting your DH to settle her could help get her out of the habit of being fed to sleep?

My baby is 13 months old. I have no idea how to settle him without a boob (and without letting him scream it out).
DH, with no tits, cannot settle him.

Wake the baby, get your balls ripped off.

When dd was tiny and demanding of an evening, I used to boil with rage when my partner spent ages in the loo while I saw to the baby. Totally different when I was relaxing in the bath, obvs...

It might just be tramping around the place like a herd of fucking elephants stampeding Yeah, if the whole house is shaking, that might have something to do with it darling?

Fuck me he's just gone back up again! For a poo! Wtf?!

you are mental.

Next time he goes up, creep up into the bedroom and listen to what he's doing. You will then know how much noise he is making, or what he's doing to wake her up.

And proud of it whoosh

I like the listening idea!

h used to do that when he lived here... he rrefused to settle them back to sleep. i had to meditate on the face of a police officer looking like he was about to arrest someone as a method of calming down so i didn't clonk him one with the frying pan.

He's still standing by his claim that she didn't wake up because of him. Apparently the loudest thing he did was fart. Perhaps it wasn't him tonight but what about every other night?!

I suggested the litter try but surprisingly he wasn't that keen. Perhaps because he knows I'd make him empty it just like I make him empty the cat's and the nappy bin.