AIBU to want rant about ex to the whole world!

[youngmummy17]

ds 'dad' makes me want to scream to the world how much of an arsehole he really is! He got me pregnant at sixteen (I took morning after pill etc so don't need a it takes two rant!) and then left me high and dry! He got away with not having to pay maintenance apparently an 18 year old with a job is still a child!!
he laughs at the fact i had post-natal depression due to lack of help from him! his hasn't seen ds in 6 months and not to mention he the blocked me off facebook and refuses to give me his number as he wants ds out his life, it just pisses me off so much he can do what he likes when he likes and he can choose to not be a part of his own sons life! Sorry to rant but i need to blow some steam!

[Staceisace]

Concentrate on your little boy and making his life as great as you possibly can. Not everyone is lucky enough to have two great parents or even two parents but that's okay as long as they grow up feeling loved and cared for. When he's older he'll see his father for who he really is and won't need you to tell him about how little his dad cared. I know it's upsetting and financially difficult but it's your ex who looks like an idiot in all of this, you need to rise above it...and try to get him to take responsibility by at least paying for the child he helped create.

[comedycentral]

I really feel for you OP, could you gets some advice from citizens advice.

[Oppsididitagain]

Yanbu to want to rage about it,
so you know as he is over 16 this means that the csa have run a check on him and the only way this would be legal is if someone is reciving child benefit with regard to him at the mo it won't matter how many jobs he has as long as a adult revives child benefit then he is legally classed as a child for monetary liability issues, the longest this can go on for is till he is 19 to the best of my knowledge it is not his fault that another person gets cb it's the fault of the claiment but you are compleatly right to be pissed off at the rules that allow him to do this,
also when he is older if he tells the csa his work is cash in hand he will think he's being smart but he's not obviously don't tell him this but if he's silly enough to say that then he still has to say how much he has they can still use it in a assesment.
I know it seams really crappy but try not to let it bug you because he's winning (easyer said than done I know,I'm fighting the urge to do my own maintainance/ twat thread) he will come unstuck one day.also ignore the twatish people who make digs at the suituation just because your younger or because your understandably confused about how the csa work most of the staff there don't even get it, and compleatly ignore anyone who targets the language you used it's petty and clear that some people should be old enough to know better and those people clearly arnt the actual children or only just adults after all the way you expressed your self is exactly how someone of your age would be expected to.

[ShirleyKnot]

You poor thing OP. It's hard enough being a single parent without the added frustration and FURY of this feeling of unfairness. I understand completely how you feel.

I have found the CSA to be really rather good. It has taken a long time (Nearly a year) but I heard this week that a liability order has been issued on my XH and it's now being referred to a debt collection agency - those bastards are like a dog with a bone so I am confident that I might eventually get my enormous £40 per week for my 2 children!

ANYWAY - I think the father of your child is probably doing a college course which would mean he is still in education and (possiby) this is why no order has been placed.

Are his family seeing your little boy?

[iamjustlurking]

Won't bore you with the back story but I was left high and dry with literally nothing and an 3 week, 5yr and 8 yrs old now 8 years later I have just been awarded a whole £20 a month for all 3 children oh yes indeed.

I work and pay my own rent, bills, things for children 2 now v expensive teenagers. Just got to love CSA and arsehole exes