dh comes home and spreads his bits(not the ones in his pants!), around the worktops!!

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dh, whom i love to bits comes in from work(i work too), and hangs his jacket on the kids high chair, then leaves bag, phone, paper work, wallet all over the work tops. This is so bloomin annoying, esp when I have just cleaned/decluttered.
Every morning I come down to a beer can/ bottle(s) greeting me, items of clothing, crisp wrappers....mugs, socks. Dropped and left. It is doing my head in.
He doesn't see it as a problem. His repely"I live here too!!" "yes - its not a bloody hotel!!" Makes out it is not a problem at all - why should I be bothered.
Or should I just get a life and try not to be bothered
The problem is I child mind from home, so like the place to be clean and organised. Plus I already have 3 dc to look after - don't need another one.
Ideas/strategies welcome thanks.

dh does this too. I have a large tray which I put all of the stuff he leaves lying around on and then put it by his side of the bed.

Not sure this makes him very happy but it keeps me sane!

Annoys me when DH does that too, especially on the ironing board when I've taken a break from ironing.

But, to be fair to him, he doesn't have anywhere to put his things at the moment as we are decorating/organising. Does your DH have somewhere to put things? A countertop, basket, bowl etc? If yes, YANBU, he should put things down there. If not then YABa littleU (cause both of you can organise something him to put things down).

MY dh was moaning the worktop was looking a little untidy so i put the 2 towels and the little bit of ironing away, over the next few days it filled up with keys letters mobiles more letters and a few cups all HIS so he can tidy himself ,

I'd put it all in a box then hide it whilst telling him I thought it was rubbish so put it in the bin.

I accidently did do this with some things of DH's, it made him stop leaving shit all over though so I'm not that sorry about it!

How funny ! yes, I have a basket too - for all the bits he needs to take to his home office in the garden! He doesn't think I am being very nice doing this, and the basket fills up rather quickly!

Don't move his jacket, let it get Weetabix/ fish/ other stinky sticky food on it.

Cup marks on his paperwork.

Make sure dc can reach wallet/ phone and let them play shop with his cards/ pretend to call granny with their sticky jam fingers.

Don't wash socks etc that aren't in laundry bin

Not usually one for passive aggressive moves but you have asked him to show you a courtesy and he has ignored. So now you need to show him what you are asking makes sense for him as well as you.

Ps at idea of your DH spreading bits in his pants on work top!

My two do exactly the same. By the end of a weekend I cannot see my worktop.

We now have a big basket on the worktop and it all goes in there.........or in a bin bag!

Sounds just like my DH. I don't mind the crap by the front door so much as that disappears when he leaves for work.

The socks/mugs/basically anything he takes out and never puts away again I sometimes pick up if it's only 1 or 2 things (I don't work so I see some tidying up as my "job") but if it gets really bad I've been known to put it all in a bag and dump it on his pillow. The idea is then that he has to deal with it before he can get into bed, but in reality it just means several bags of crap next to his side of the bed.

He travels a lot for work and never seems to unpack his bag when he comes home. Sometimes when he goes away again he takes another bag without unpacking the other one. Argh! Whe he runs out of work clothes he digs some out of the bags and dumps them on top (not in, on top) of the washing basket.

It never ceases to amaze how he can hold down a difficult and demanding job and not be able to manage the simplest tasks at home.

I thought this was going to be another anti-pets thread. Not dissimilar.

Mine uses the fruit bowl to dump all his crap in. It drives me mental

God DH is the same. It drives me insane. Everything on the dining table. He gets in at 6 just as I'm serving up dinner for us all. EVERY night I scream like a banshee 'get your CRAP off the table, I'm about to serve tea....' he doesn't learn....

DH has a basket thing where he is allowed to dump his wallet/other bits in knowing I won't move any of it.

If your H can't manage to get as far the bin with his empty beer cans, crisp packets, etc, he needs a slap.

YANBU

DP does this too. It's so fucking annoying. He genuinely doesn't see the mess but it is like he walks in a room and bomb goes off, then walks in another, same again...a trail of destruction behind him. Most annoying is him opening post, normally junk mail, and just leaving it on the side OR taking his shoes and belt off by the front door so you either trip over them as you walk in, or you can't get to the front door in a hurry

Solutions:
box for paperwork
Scoop everything up in to a basket and leave where he'd fall over it [grin
Like warren said, put it in his side of the bed
Failing all of the above, chuck it in a bin and stop buying beer for him. He'll soon learn when there are no socks and no veer to drink!

PS He knows if he puts his 'bits' anywhere else I will 'tidy' them and he'll never see them again

my DH is the same i was sick to death of the rubbish he left on his bedside table so i bought a pretty blue box , now its full to the brim and i need to buy a bloody trunk now.

ohh this pisses me off.
DH does and then doesnt remember where he has left them so there'll be 20 panic stricken minutes the next morning because he forgot where he left his keys.

My dh does this too, it is very annoying and i wonder why i tidy up in the first place
He hangs his coat on our kitchen door, his keys on my pushchair, his clothes get chucked on floor next to washing basket instead of inside it and his smelly pants and socks get left in bathroom inside out for either me to pick up or guests to find.....
I told him to stop doing it, he does stop for a day then he continues to do the same day after day

It's me that leaves my trappings 'all over the fuckin' place' - phone, bags, keys, work id, nail varnish/make up removers, cotton wool, nail varnish, baby lotion, bras.......

It's my DH (bless him) that tidies it all up because I said if it worries him - move it. So he does. Ah well, at least I know where things are when I need them!

Runs for cover in guilt

YABU. I'm not sure what the problem is OP. Seems reasonable for him to leave his belongings in a convenient place, especially as it is a worktop. Surely that is what worktops are for? Decluttering is just passive-aggressive reorganisation for its own sake. Making him put everything in "proper" places in different parts of the house would slow him down on his way to the sofa I think.

I'm with OTTers.

I'm not alone! The relief! Drives me fucking mad!

The most used phrase in our house is "where is my (insert keys/important document/random bit of shite here)?"

I always reply bowl/box file/bin. I.e. where it fucking should be! My dh actually will lean over a bin to put rubbish in the side! (stabby)

Yes my DH obviously hates clear spaces because he covers them with his crap too.

We have overflowing trays / baskets everywhere so I have somewhere to put his stuff but when they do fill up I make him sort it. Sometimes have to stand over him but he knows it is unacceptable.

Think I need to buy some more baskets!!