dh comes home and spreads his bits(not the ones in his pants!), around the worktops!!

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dh, whom i love to bits comes in from work(i work too), and hangs his jacket on the kids high chair, then leaves bag, phone, paper work, wallet all over the work tops. This is so bloomin annoying, esp when I have just cleaned/decluttered.
Every morning I come down to a beer can/ bottle(s) greeting me, items of clothing, crisp wrappers....mugs, socks. Dropped and left. It is doing my head in.
He doesn't see it as a problem. His repely"I live here too!!" "yes - its not a bloody hotel!!" Makes out it is not a problem at all - why should I be bothered.
Or should I just get a life and try not to be bothered
The problem is I child mind from home, so like the place to be clean and organised. Plus I already have 3 dc to look after - don't need another one.
Ideas/strategies welcome thanks.

Glad to see other get irate about this too - makes me seem less, well, anal. To add to what others have put: DH gets home and takes a biscuit from the tin and leaves the tin in the middle of the work surface where I am about to cook. A small thing but WHY can't he just put it back???It takes a second and he knows it drives me mad.

This morning he was working from home (is usually gone well before I get up) and offered to 'help'. Which basically boiled down to making DS porridge and changing is nappy. I still had to make the rest of DS's breakfast, clear everything up, tidy up for the cleaners, put the dirty nappy in a sack and throw away, put pyjamas in the washing basket, pick up dirty clothes from the floor, clean up high chair, load the dishwasher etc.

Grrr.

I have tried the bowl by the door thing but DH still puts his things next to the bowl, not in it.

Yes33goingon64, in the morning my dh has the luxuary of sitting down and having a casual breakfast whilst I literally whiz around, making the kids breakfast and tidying it away, get ds3 dressed, supervise teeth cleaning and washing/hair brushing, then hear him read, empty the cat litter tray, make packed luch for ds3, pick up any clothes/ ask ds3 to put his pj's in the laundry basket, feed 4 cats, wipe away cat sick (old moggie is a bit of a sicky cat!!), or if in a rush leave it as one of the 4 cats is sure to eat it., make the place look presentable for minded children (3 under 3's some days), which includes sweeping or hoovering, put a wash load on,
remove crap from work tops, and thats just for starters. I start work at 8 a.m Miracles happen!!
My dh sometimes empties the dishwasher, but the cats would move in next door if he were left in charge of feeding them.

I gave Dh a kitchen drawer to use, seems to be working. He throws his keys, wallet and assorted junk in and I add what he leaves out.
One time I was so annoyed with the tools he kept leaving in the kitchen I got a cardboard box. Every time he left something in the kitchen I threw it in the box, then after a day or so I stuck it in the garage, seeing thats where the tools had come from, he got a bit cranky over it then got the message for a while. I also let Ds (who was about 18months at the time) rip the front covers off his car mags, then I was all apologetic, said he'd left them where Ds could reach, not Ds's fault. That got him putting his mags away, all a bit PA but if you nag at them they dig their heels in and don't change anything.