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to want ugs. mindee just broke arm

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moogster1a · 19/06/2012 14:56

Poor little chap slipped off side of the dining chair, put his arm out and broke it!!
his dad arrived in time to go with him in ambulance.
I'm in floods of tears. I feel terrible, I was right next to him. He's only 2 and a half and he was in so much pain.
Someone tell me you wouldn't think I was the world's worst childminder, 'cos that's what I'm thinking.

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Original poster
moogster1a · 19/06/2012 14:56

I want hugs, by the way, not furry boots.

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ZebraLeg · 19/06/2012 14:58

Accidents happen

HeadfirstForHalos · 19/06/2012 14:58

It could have happened anywhere. I'm glad you don't want ugs, they're awful and I'm skint, have a hug instead ( )

NameGotLostInCyberspace · 19/06/2012 14:59

You poor thing! (and mindee)! {hugs} Hope he gets well soon.

Marrow · 19/06/2012 15:00

Poor little one and poor you. Accidents happen.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 19/06/2012 15:00

Accidents happen, dont beat yourself up about it. When DS was with a CM he fell over and cut his eyebrow open.......I didnt blame the CM one bit and most reasonable parents wouldnt. My DS was carrying a plate with birthday cake on at the time and fell over......he decided his cake was worth saving more than his face but then he was only about 2!

(())

ripsishere · 19/06/2012 15:00

Accidental. I am certain the parents will see it that way.
Have a not some uggs - although given the weather, they would be more appropriate.

Trioofprinces · 19/06/2012 15:00

I wouldn't think you're the worst cM ever, accidents happen. It wasn't as I you were doing anything negligent or could have prevented it.

Take care, and remember it's not your fault.

I hate uggs by the way so here are some hugs..

SlipperyNipple · 19/06/2012 15:01

It can happen anywhere. My son fell off chair right next to me....didn't hurt himself badly but easily could have done. Baby crawled off bed and landed on head....and couch. It's the nature of the beast.

Parents may feel a bit differently though....when your child gets hurt you are not always logical.

The little chap is going to be fine.

TroublesomeEx · 19/06/2012 15:01

I wouldn't think you're the worst CM either.

DD had a couple of accidents when she was with CM. Nothing broken, but only through luck.

It didn't occur to me for a second to think it was the CM's fault. Accidents happen.

It's horrible to feel that guilt though. Sad

Have a hug.

WyrdMother · 19/06/2012 15:04

No wonder you are freaked out, it's bad enough when one of your own injures themselves but this sounds like one of those things.

Unless you wrap them in bubblewrap then stuff happens (I have often contemplated some kind of gladitorial games with toddlers wrapped in bubblewrap, last one standing wins). My DD's injury of choice is knee wounds that scar, not as serious as a broken arm obviously, but if you looked at her knees you would think we make her crawl over broken glass.

Have a good cry then check out what you should do in the circumstances, paper work etc. Have you got some kind of local Childminding co-ordinator/advocate who can help you? I'm not a childminder but I have childminding friends and we have one.

Hope it's a simple break and that he gets the sort of cast you can scribble on.

ThisLittleTeddyBear · 19/06/2012 15:12

As others have said, accidents happen.

The accident itself wouldn't affect what I thought of you as a childminder, but how you handled the aftermath would. I'm sure the dad would've seen how upset you were about it and how concerned you were for the poor little mite, and I bet he'll base his view of you on that.

Do you have other mindees today?

((hug))

NoComet · 19/06/2012 15:20

Hugs,
DD2 has broken both he arms, they mend.

First time she fell out of a tree with me,dad and a responsible friend watching. Second time she was trampolining with her dad.
DCs are accidents waiting to happen, it's part of their job description.

geminitiger · 19/06/2012 15:20

I don't think that you're a bad CM, like the others have said, things like this happen. You obviously care enough about the little one to be upset and that's what matters.

FourThousandHoles · 19/06/2012 15:31

Accidents happen, although I know that's easy for us to say. My DD fell over whilst walking back to CM's house after school a few years ago, landing face first onto concrete. She had a split lip, lots of grazes, cuts and bruises and a chipped tooth. The tooth was a baby tooth and a couple of years later it had to be removed as the adult tooth had moved and wasn't pushing it out. The adult tooth is now completely wonky and sticks out of her mouth.

Childminders fault? God no. Could have happened at any time, dd1 is clumsy and her eyesight wasn't good at the time. I could tell she felt shitty about it but I was never going to blame her. DD still goes there now more than three years later.

Have a hug and a very large Wine

Hope mindee recovers quickly, they do at that age don't they?

januaryjojo · 19/06/2012 15:41

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Poledra · 19/06/2012 16:03

MY CM had to call an ambulance for my DD1 when she was about 18 months old, as DD1 decided to step off a piece of play equipment without taking into account the fact she was 3 steps up. CM was there in the garden, just couldn't get to her quick enough. DD1 then, in her fright, did the toddler thing of stopping breathing....

DD1 was fine, CM was utterly sick (we met her at the hospital) and still swears it took 10 years off her life! And yes, I continue to trust this woman - DD1 still goes there, 6 years later along with my 2 susbsequent children.

Accidents happen.

madasa · 19/06/2012 16:06

I was a nanny once and child fell off climbing frame and broke his arm.....the day before they went on holiday Shock

Nobody blamed me and you are not to blame either....accidents happen.

Hugs x

Sparklingbrook · 19/06/2012 16:06

If it was my child I wouldn't be blaming you. Just an accident. But I can see why you would be upset.

Do the parents seem like normal people who would see it like that?

comedycentral · 19/06/2012 17:53

Just as I was reading this my two year old fell off the sofa next to me and carpet grazed his arm, he could have easily broke it too. Accidents happen, I wouldn't blame you one bit. I hope you are ok. hugs

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moogster1a · 19/06/2012 19:02

Just found out he's broken both bones. God, I couldn't feel worse.
DH has just driven to hospital to pick them all up as the dad had to leave his car here to go in ambulance.
Might take the opportunity to break my own arm in penance.
Still astounded that slipping off a chair has caused this.
'phoned OFSTED to let them know so no doubt they'll be round.
Can't even have a Wine as PG.

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FutTheShuckUp · 19/06/2012 19:04

I did wonder how chavvy furry boots would help in this instance!! Dont beat yourself up, it happens xx

Flisspaps · 19/06/2012 19:07

moogster Will Ofsted really come over for a broken arm? It's hard enough getting them out when you actually want them!

You can have a Wine if you want, if not then here's an ug for you Wink

Make sure you write what happened in the incident log, note the accident book (and get the child's parent to sign it when you see them) and put the correct time of leaving in your attendance log.

Could have happen to any of us - tomorrow (or Thursday) he'll probably be full of excitement about his trip to the hospital and the ambulance!

McHappyPants2012 · 19/06/2012 19:08

accidents happen please don't beat yourself up, it could ofhappened to anyone

SummerRain · 19/06/2012 19:09

My daughter broke her leg at a friends birthday party when she was 4. She jumped off a teeny tiny low wall onto grass and managed a spiral fracture of her tibia Confused

The mother was understandably mortified but I honestly didn't blame her for a second, in fact as it's an injury closely related to abuse I was quietly relieved it had happened away from home with witnesses!

Accidents happen and unfortunately when parents work and the child is in childcare they're statistically more likely to happen at the childminders.

Have a cup of hot sweet tea and take a deep breathe, it's not your fault Smile

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