to fancy my husband less now

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he's shaved off his beard? He's had a beard for most of our married life, grew one after university and it had become a part of him. He shaved it off 3 weeks ago.
I feel like a bitch saying this about the man I married, but without it, he looks weak.
The family have been telling him how much neater and better it looks, but I keep thinking 'you don't sleep with him'.
He asked me what I think, so he knows I preferred the beard (I was nice about it!) and I don't want to say any more on the subject because I'd be rather annoyed if he tried to manage my appearance.
However, I do compromise in some ways if I know he finds something attractive/unattractive because it makes me happy to have something which makes me extra-desirable to him.
I'm finding myself really unattracted to him at the minute, though I would never tell him this and I'm trying hard not to show it in any way.
Feeling very unreasonable and a bit embarrassed by how bothered I am by this

YANBU to feel how you feel but I just can't stand beards, I think they're filthy looking things

And I bet he looks years younger!

YANBU, and I know what you mean. I was at uni with a man I rather fancied when bearded, but when he shaved he had no chin! I actually made dh shave his off before I agreed to marry him, just in case. (He's fine either way. )

Ask him to wear a fake beard for intimate moments

Of course it bothers you, it changes a man's face massively when they shave off a beard. I find it so odd when my DH shaves his beard (he does it every six months or so) and I don't like it. But I'm sure I'd get used to it if I was given a chance (I don't, he always lets it grow back).

How do you like the designer stubble look? Can you compromise a bit so that he isn't clean shaven or fully bearded?

I know how you feel though. Years ago my ex used to have a goatee beard, and he looked sexy as hell with it. We had been together about three years before I ever saw him with it shaved off and it freaked me right out! That wasn't the reason we split by the way. But it was very odd for me for about a month, and then I got used to it and fancied him again.

My DH seems to be growing his hair long and i have gently asked him if he is going to have a haircut soon. He has always had short hair and i think he looks so much better with his hair short.

So no, YANBU.

My Mum has never seen my Dad without a beard. They have been married over 40 years. Mum has said that if he shaves it off, it is grounds for divorce. Who knows what could be under there!

YANBU, he has changed his looks very dramatically, of course you have thoughts and feelings about that. I hope you get to like the new style. .

yanbu - my dh has a goatie as he has a ridiculously weak, recessive chin - without it he looks immature.

I would kick off if he got rid entirely - I don't mind if he keeps it very short ie. grade 1 or 2.

:o worra Think I'm probably channelling my inner cavewoman.
He doesn't have the manliest of jaws either. When you're 21 you can get away with androgyny, but now he just looks all mushroomy and wrong. May have to take Panda's suggestion.
Could possibly compromise, tbh he's lazy at maintaining it, so it's at that painful 2mmm length today.

Im the opposite way round if dh grew a beard he knows I would be pissed of about it.Why dont you just tell him?

I'm the opposite, fancy my husband more without it... Shame he's too lazy to shave regularly!

:o camdancer - that is such a weird thought

molly It feels a bit cruel (crueler than going on an online forum and being a cow about him). Think he's feeling quite James Bond and everyone else seems to like it, so I don't want to pressure him into re-fuzzing..

My DH has had a beard the whole 11 years we've been together. He's threatened to shave it off loads of times, but I've threatened him with divorce

I feel the same about my dh's beard. I love it and think it makes his face look great ... Even more now it's grey. I get verrrrrry stroppy when he shaves it off ( once every few years) ..last time I told him I wouldn't talk to him til the stubble grew back but I think he rather enjoyed the peace !

I'm the opposite.

My dh grew a beard and I found it completely repulsive, as I do all beards.

My mum burst into tears when my dad shaved his off.

I have to admit, it was odd looking at him. It just didn't look like HIM. I had never seen him without a beard before (and hope never to again). it was like it wasn't my dad. he looked old and weak and like he needed protection.

I agree that my dad did look weak without it, though I think lots of that was to do with insecurity, possibly not helped with his family's reaction!!!

So. YANBU

YANBU! DH wears a short beard (more like long stubble) and I freak out and go really weird when he shaves it too short. He gets cross at this, but he looks way better (and not as young) with facial hair! He has a very strange long chin, which is not his best feature!

Sorry but I'm PMSL at "mushroomy and wrong" It paints a very odd picture.

My DH goes from goatee to cleanly shaved quite a lot. He came home from the barbers the other day with something ridiculous on his face...he looked like Ali G and I told him so. To be fair, he completely agreed and shaved it off. He was just "experimenting" or something.

He's quite lucky though, he looks fine either way.

I cried when dh shaved his off, I still miss it