To tell SIL to stay away if she can't be civil

[FrankieAnne]

Everytime she visits she calls DD "old woman Gladys". I was never funny and now, 9 months on it's just plain irritating. Would it be an over reaction to tell her if she can't act like a grown up she can just stay away because I can't be arsed to deal with her?

Great name!

My brother calls my DD2 Steve. I got over it.

Your SIL is being a pain...... but it is a name and a half to be fair.

My friend's grandchildren are called Sylvia and Stanley - she calls them 'the pensioners' (though not to her son and DILs face ).

There was Gladys in SCBU when my DS was in 6 years ago - we thought it was a lovely name!

I think it's a lovely name and even lovelier if it's got a special meaning to you. She's being very rude. You need to tell her it really upsets you and give her a chance to stfu. If she still persists then yes, I'd ban her. She'll be grovelling in no time. Is OH supportive of this plan of action tho or will it cause an almightly ruck?

YANBU she is being really rude.

I know a Gladys who is a bit younger than me, about 20, and yes tbh when I first met her I was surprised to see the name on someone young but I soon got used to it! There is nothing wrong with the name, quite nice although it is unusual, and it is none of her business in any case!

Gladys is a fabulous name, and it's regaining popularity right along with other names from the same generation. Your SIL needs to get with the times or get her nose out. I assume she's old enough to know that if you can't say something nice then you should zip it.

Your SIL is being rude. But in the nicest possible way, you must have been prepared for some less than optimum responses when you named your baby Gladys?

I wonder what your sil's name is?
my gran was born in 1899 and called Gladys Esme, Gladys was fine but the hell her parents got for the Esme, as it was considered a boys name at the time it is still talked about and she has been dead 36 years, but I have seen a huge crop of little girls called Esme in the last few years.
tis all fashion, my boys sort fine 1930's names I looked up the incidence of there name in England for the year of their birth recently, someone on MN put a link up and there where 78 of one and 91 for the other name, I personally was surprised there where that many :)

I like the name.

Call her old aunty X, or worse until she gets the picture.

BIL said every time he met dd1 "I'm Uncle X, that's your handsome uncle". Very irritating. Dd1 aged about 3yo asked if handsome meant fat, as the most obvious thing about him. . Unfortunately reminding him of that only works briefly. He still says it almost every time we see him and she's 11yo. I think he thinks he's being terribly witty

Call her Old Bag Sil (insert her own name here obviously) with a massive grin on your face. Encourage others to do so. She'll soon stfu.

We had this when ds1 was born. My dad thought that his name was poncey so referred to him as an even more poncetastic name. I said "dad you can call him that if you want but when he talks I promise he will call you ". It stopped immediately.

What I don't understand is why you've let it go on so long? Please don't do that, isn't hard to say.

That would be a complete over reaction.
Yes, I can see it is very annoying, but really, no need for such a drastic response!
Can't you just ask her firmly to stop it?

What's her name and why don't you do something similar back to her "oh..Aunty HairyMary thinks your name is an old lady name - how silly she is!"

I did something similar - my ex-BIL nicknamed DS2 "Mel Smith" when he was 18months old. To be fair he was a bit fat & his hair could've been doing with cutting, but I got my own back when I encouraged DS2 mispronounciation of Uncle Salmon (instead of Uncle Simon) and that is how he is to be forever known in this house. Ha!

BTW: I think Gladys is a lovely name.

I'm going through something similar with my sisters, they think it's hilarious to take the Mick out of how Dd (22m) says yoghurt. It's just really confusing for Dd as she's still learning, I think it'll be confusing for your Dd if it carries on.

Is sil generally a piece of work?

Yanbu

'Gosh, SIL, you make that joke everytime - aren't you worried that you sound boring?'

I know a special Gladys too, great name. Tell SIL to stfu next time

My brothers call my DC "dave" & "madge", these are not their given names. But they think it's funny and to be fair the names I chose are a bit wanky....

Agree with a lot of posters, it's incredibly rude - how dare she! However choosing an unusual/old fashioned/difficult to pronounce name (in other peoples' opinion) is always going to be an issue for you and your daughter. There will always be a twattish idiot sil out there ' what's your name?' + incredulous stare.

I guess you don't want her name to 'come back into fashion'? I wouldn't. Who wants to be called the same as millions and millions of other dc?