Went out with dh on friday and met up with his friends (not English) visiting the UK. The man left his wife and three small children after fifteen years for a girl half his age. He brought her along, she is nice enough, but rather childish and with it seems little remorse for what they both caused. Dh and I are going through a bit of a bumpy patch, namely that we both work long hours and I have responsibility of a grumpy teenager and a disabled mother, so when we do see each other I am exhausted and he is resentful of the fact that I am not very often up for going out and about or having lots of sex.
Anyway to get to the point, while we were out dh's friend asked what we do when we are off at the same time, dh said 'not much'. Friend then went into twenty minute speech about how I must give priority to my husband and that we would be sure to split up if I didn't address things soon. I was so upset I just sat there, what made me even more angry was that dh just sat there and nodded in agreement. I am aware that I need to make more of an effort when we are alone together,but to have to take this advice from someone who basically up and left his young family to have a relationship with someone who boosts his ego made me really angry. Am I oversensitive-Dh said he was only being helpful!!