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Original poster

aibu to be worried sick - ds 17 not home and phone off

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marriedinwhite · 15/06/2012 23:39

DH is away. It's late. I would love another glass of wine. DS should be on his way home from the other side of London. Haven't heard from him for four hours. He was mugged about six weeks ago. His phone isn't on; this happened last time. Not expecting him home before 11.30pm but absolutely worried sick.

Can you please keep me company until he gets home or make contact.

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ILoveOnionRings · 16/06/2012 00:06

That is good news Wine

Noqontrol · 16/06/2012 00:06

Ahh, that's great. Glad he's ok.

usualsuspect · 16/06/2012 00:07

Phew

squeakytoy · 16/06/2012 00:11

Do his friends all live over there or did he travel back alone for another reason?

Youvebeentangoed · 16/06/2012 00:14

Glad he is well.

Although it wasn't nice for you, I am so glad to read your posts. As soon as some turn 16, some parents don't really care. I was left in a city to fend for myself at 16 whilst my mother upped and moved over a hundred miles away with barely a second thought for me. It is refreshing to actually see others still care very much so for their young adult children.

Enjoy that glass of wine, you deserve it. Your DS sounds like a lovely young man. You must be proud :)

Not4turning · 16/06/2012 00:14

Yayyyy. You must let him know how worried you were though. Glad.

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marriedinwhite · 16/06/2012 00:15

Travelled back alone because he didn't have his keys and I had said I didn't want to be up all night waiting. I didn't factor in the fact that he might come home alone - although it's all on the district line and I think it was pretty busy where he was tonight. Victoria Park/Lovebox Festival.

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Salmotrutta · 16/06/2012 00:20

Smile - my DS is mid 20s, we live in a rural town in a very rural area (which consists of towns/villages in a huge local authority area) and I still worry.

Our son is a man.

But he is still our boy.

Blush
thecook · 16/06/2012 00:24

So glad your son is safe love. I remember when your son was mugged.

I am based in Maida Vale/South Kilburn. I don't have kids but I am involved in community projects. To be honest, I can understand why you were worried love. Glad for you love that he is home safe xx

Salmotrutta · 16/06/2012 00:28

I'm actually embarassed to admit that I still worry about my son. Blush

He is self-sufficient in many ways but in other ways a bit naive.

How I wish I could arrange his life ... but strangely, he rejects my attempts. Confused.

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marriedinwhite · 16/06/2012 00:31

Salmotrutta mine might be big and strong now but to me is forever the bright blue skinned rabbit who had to be resuscitated and brought a crash team of paeds into the delivery suite. Hard to believe now Smile but salutory for all Mnet mums having a hard time with sickly wee ones.

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Youvebeentangoed · 16/06/2012 00:34

You shouldn't be embarrassed. It is normal (I would expect. My eldest is 7, so not anywhere near that stage but I don't think that day will ever come when I don't still see either as my babies and stop worrying)

I prefer to hear of Mothers caring, no matter the age, than the likes of my mother who was too selfish and didn't care what happened to me.

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marriedinwhite · 16/06/2012 00:38

Well then youvebeentangoed your mum might not have been the greatest but it's lovely to hear you have your own dc now and would go to the moon and back for them.

I'm off to bed now and hopefully my 14 year old will be in it as dh's away.

Thank you everyone for being so kind and supportive tonight. I know I was being a bit of a "nana" but was glad to have Mnet to lean on in DH's absence. Bunch of vipers that it doesn't really contain when the chips are down.

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redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 16/06/2012 00:40

phew!

LeB0F · 16/06/2012 00:43

That's a relief!

WorraLiberty · 16/06/2012 00:51

I'm off to bed now and hopefully my 14 year old will be in it as dh's away

Errr fuck that for a game of skittles!! Grin

Glad he's home now and you can get some sleep.

Youvebeentangoed · 16/06/2012 01:00

Marriedinwhite, she may not be the greatest, but I do have her to thank for teaching me how not to parent a child, in many more ways than one :)

Good night, and enjoy either a bed to yourself, or a snuggle with your 14 year old. Both just as good, especially compared to a snoring, farting, quilt stealing partner :o

takingiteasy · 16/06/2012 09:51

What a lovely thread. Made me smile. I'm sitting here with my 8 week old boy asleep on my chest and my 6 year old boy bouncing about and playing zombies. Hard to imagine them being men one day but the last six years has made me realise time really does fly, I'm putting the brakes on!

Shutupanddrive · 16/06/2012 09:58

Just found this thread. Glad he got home safe. I dread this when my boys are older. They are only 2&6 so got a few years yet! Grin

MammaTJ · 16/06/2012 09:59

So glad he came home safe and sound.

takingiteasy, they give parents more sleepless nights as teens than as babies when you are doing night feeds.

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