If you were shopping today and a random stranger...

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Who was looking at the same dress as you and chatting to her friend and told you it would suit you, I'm sorry it was me and I upset you, you couldn't have looked more unimpressed if you'd tried.
The trouble is I work in retail and it comes as second nature to chat to people, I just forgot about boundaries for a second.
Sorry I won't do it again, I'm embarrassed.

Aw, I'd have though that was lovely unless I was picking a dress for an elderly relly.

Sorry not AIBU, thought I was in Chat. Damn.

It was me and I know you were taking the piss because I am built like a tree full of coathangers and nothing looks good on me.

Utter cow. YWBY.

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Did you really upset her?/

I talk to random strangers regularly - not been told to fuck off yet!!

No def not, long and summery, halter neck, colours which would have gone with her hair.

I think she thought I was a loon.

I would have thought that was very nice of you!

But there is no pleasing some people.

What a loon (her not you).

Unless it was a kids one - all prin frilly and flouncy - that she was looking at for her six year old.

i think it was lovely of you!

i had it once before, complete stranger came up to me as i was holding a dress up againgst myself and said it really suited me.... so i brought it! and loved wearing it for years.

We had a shopful of old ladies helping teenage daughter and I pick out a pretty frock for her to wear to a wedding. It was great.

Maybe she was a bit taken aback/daydreaming and couldn't immediately get her brain into gear to think of an appropriate response. I am sure your nice compliment wouldn't have upset her. I do this all the time. I think people must assume I am a snotty cow but I am just a bit sloooooow when taken by surprise

Thanks people, I do get asked my opinion in shops quite often, and I'm more than happy to help. I'll just wait to be asked next time. It gave my friend a good laugh though.

Oh don't worry about it. She was probably just shocked.

If you see me wandering aimlessly around a shop, grab me and shove clothes you think I would suit into my arms and give me a makeover. Thanks.

I was once in a book store looking at a few books, trying to select my holiday reading and a woman walked up to me, handed me a book and said "you will love this book." I bought it and she was right. It was a damn fine read.

People are very different though, depending on which area of the country they live in/are from.
I moved to my current location from "oop North" from an area where I wouldn't expect anything else other than random people chatting to me all the time about anything and everything.
I was born and bred there and had never known anything else until I moved.
The people where I now live are very stand-offish and aloof (though once they do get to know you are in the main, very nice people).
It was a real culture shock to me and it took me a long time to adjust to going into shops and not getting any more human contact than was absolutely essential.
Maybe the dress lady was from round here and had never experienced that kind of human warmth before and so didn't recognise it for what it was.
I'd put it down to a culture shock on her part.

winged I was born Northern but am now in Home Counties. You are very perceptive.

Someone once asked my opinion in an old style changing room,you know the ones with everyone in one big room? Anyway,I said the colour & shape of the trousers were really nice but perhaps try the next size as they were about to split probably nicer a little looser.
She then told me she was asking what I thought of the top,the trousers were hers

I frequently comment to random women in changing rooms and/or ask their opinions - I'm in London, but nobody looks at me like I'm a loon.

I have to bite my tongue when looking at people browsing the children's books section in Waterstones because I am compelled to go over and give them a twenty minute speech on "Great neglected classics of children's fiction that your DC/DN/DGC will love". I normally restrain myself - thank heavens for the MN Children's Fiction section where people actually ask for my opinion.

icelolly! That's classic.

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I was once asked in the ladies loos of an extremely large workplace to help a ramdom woman pull up the zip of her skirt, which she had essentially burst out of. I did my level best but it just wasn't possible, and I had to advise her to pull her blouse down over her arse, run to M&S and buy an emergency replacement. She was not impressed, and looked at me as if it were my fault that she'd crammed herself into a skirt three sizes too small.

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I would have really appreciated that comment from someone.

I was trying on some glasses the other day and a woman who worked there came over to tell me that she was sorry for interrupting (or something along those lines) but the glasses really suited me. I was chuffed to get an honest opinion, particularly as they are very different from my usual sort and I wanted to be a bit more daring but wasn't totally sure.

I saw someone trying on a jacket in the shop t'other day and thought "yes that looks nice".

I should say it out loud next time. Random acts of kindness.

How odd that someone should be offended.

Keep being nice! It is nice to be nice!

That was nice of you, she was obviously just a bitch.