To think that the TA is wrong, wrong, wrong.

[MammaTJ]

My DD 6 has a little issue with her heart. I say little issue, because that is obv how the cardiologist sees it, but quite honestly, thinking about it scares me to death.
He did say that the most important thing is to make sure she doesn't become overweight (while looking my fat body up and down and asking if I can manage that(.
She does lots of different excercise throughout the week and is a child who does not sit still anyway. She is, as I am typing, bouncing up and down just for the fun of it.
She has two weetabix for breakfast. Often followed by a piece of fruit.
For her packed lunch she has a sandwich, which is one slice of bread. A sausage roll. a cereal bar, a bag of crisps, some more fruit. As well as a drink of squash.
I think this is plenty, bordering on too much, but as she is slim and as she should be I am happy to continue to let her have this.
She does love her food and may be like me in that she doesn't have that off switch. I feel as the adults in hr life it is for us to control that for her at this age.
She asked for a banana from the lovely school cook the other day and got a comment from one of the TAs that 'you don't have enough in you lunchbox'. Not this TA is someone I like and respect but this made me angry.
Apart from anything else, I am the best person to decide what is enough or otherwise.
Not sure what to do, but AIBU to be a little upset about this?

If a child who was packed lunch asked for more food, it's v easy to assume they are hungry and therefore assume you 'did not have enough in your lunchbox'. That's probably all it is!!

It is out v. of the ordinary for the kitchen to supply food for those who aren't school dinners-how would they be able to fund that!?

I wouldn't worry about the comment, but I would suggest an overhaul of the lunch box. Sausage rolls and crisps are surely not advised by the consultant? I totally understand the over-protective feeling, it is natural.

I think you need to have a word with your partner.

2 weetabix is an adults portion then a couple of hours later she is having a large very salty sounding lunch. If my child had a problem with her heart I would definately be steering her away from all that fat and salt! I bet you don't eat a sandwich for lunch, a packet of crisps, a sausage roll, a cereal bar and fruit.

My toddler eats 2 weetabix, I think that is fine, it is more the type of food in the lunch box that is the real issue I think?

i haven't read the whole thread so forgive me if i repeat what people have said. why not ask for help from a dietician or nutritionist? as your daughter has a heart problem, the gp or consultant will probably support this. you could get specific advice for your daughter and her needs.

I would have thought that the comment was "don´t you have enough.."

Hopefully said jokingly.

She does sound like a bit eater-what does she have for evening meal?

A sandwich made from 1 slice of bread isn't enough for a 5yo IME. Ditch the crisps and sausage roll crap too.

If she has a heart condition you need to put your foot down with DH over the lunches. Can't you buy things online weekly and portion them out? A sausage roll plus sandwich is overkill as others have said...especially with crisps too.

I would make her sandwich more filling with chicken and salad in it maybe...plus a banana and a yogurt and a flapjack or muffin. that's loads for a child her age and healthier too.

lovebunny is right actually....OP your GP will give advice or make an appointment for you. I would if it were me....you should think about avoiding high fat and salted foods really...anyting that's processed like crisps and sausage rolls are bad regularly. Ok for a little change now and then but not daily or even weekly.

Sausage roll, cereal bar and crisps are all fairly high in fat. You could instead put in raisins, carrot sticks, extra sandwich etc.

Parents of children on school dinners have paid for the banana so she can't have it - mine would know that by year one, reception maybe not. TA should have explained that as well maybe

That lunch is unhealthy. I know this is mean, but rather than worry about throwaway comments, worry about the bowel cancer risk of processed meat and the huge amounts of salt in that meal.

Imo school dinners can be healthier if you don't have the time to put together a healthy packed lunch. I'm not really having a go over packed lunch contents as if I did one, it would be similar. Which is why o don't. I make kids have school dinners whether they like it or not.

a banana added on to any lunch is hardly a problem.

Dd is 8 and on a very careful diet. Sorry, but you need to ditch the cereal bar and sausage roll. Are you sure she won't drink water?

I also agree about 2 weetabix being what an adult would have and that's without the fruit.

As so many others have said, the content of that lunchbox for a 6 yr old is not great, but as you start by saying due to a heart problem it's really important she doesn't get overweight, then it seems daft to get her into the habit of muching a bag of crisps every day ! . You can't really absolve responsibility saying your dp puts it together, as a) you should be working together when it's something as important as her health, and b) because they must have been bought to be sitting there in the cupboard for him to use! Why have them in the house ?

In my 6yo's lunch box no way would there be a sausage roll and crisps. And probably not a cereal bar as well. They are not as healthy as you think. I would have sandwich (or pasta salad), crisps or cereal bar(or more likely brioche), yogurt, fruit, veg sticks and fruit juice (not squash).

I know the amount I put in the lunch box is right. I wouldn't pay any attention to flip coments by the TA. DD's TA styles her hair almost every other day. "Because it's not platted enough" according to DD. She has a very short boy, with a clip/ bobble to hold the hair off her face. I'm not really sure what else to do with it, but I'm glad the TA tires to do something, as I know DD has issues with not having waist long hair like most of the other girls in the top set.

dc school would send a letter home with a lunch box like that.
they have a strict healthy eating policy-no junk no juice.

could you make the lunch before bed and tell your dh to grow up?

Yeah agree not that healthy but cheesesarnie a letter home?? Presumably your child is at first school or infant junior. Here at h

Bugger posted too soon, here high school is funded by Pfis so there's a huge chocolate machine( cadburys) and at break private caterers sell pizza, burgers etc!! Hey ho.

thebody - choc machine, pizza. We are a healthy school so even the teachers can't buy pudding without a main course, and no salt in the place (except in my pocket )

thebody- primary. at the chocolate machine etc! dd is at secondary and theyre not as strict as the primary but still

OK no criticism - my six year old has two slice brown bread sandwich, tiny treat like a party ring or mini muffin, plus a pot of fruit. Occasional yoghurt.

No need for cereal bars, crisps etc.

Sandwich, fruit, tiny treat.

You can know what you're giving her is good then. Frankly - sausage roll, cereal bar, crisps are not what she needs in my view.

Sorry - has ended up sounding like criticism.

Then you have a bit more leeway to give a small treat in the evening.