To be annoyed at getting an invitation to a birthday party three days before it happens.

[Pinkiemum]

So my next door neighbour rings the door bell at 7.30 my dd's bed time with an invitation for a party on Sunday. Normally I am pretty flexible, but I would actually like to take my husband out for fathers day and will not be able to if I let my dd go to the party.

It also feels like she has been invited at the last minute because someone else could not come. Last year they gave me a mornings notice that she dd was invited to her party, luckily I can walk to a toy shop and got a great present on sale

I know my husband will say let her go to the party, but for the last 2 years due to circumstance we have not been able to do much on fathers day and mothers day this year he had to go to Germany so did not much to celebrate.

Mothers day and fathers day were always celebrated by my family in a big way so I would like to celebrate with my husband, he is a great dad and I want ot show him that.

My family are thousands of miles away and so are my husbands so we don't see them obviously.

AIBU

I've done this before.

Nornally because of this:

Me: Are you looking forward to ice skating for you birthday dd?
dd: Yes. But not as much as my party?
Me: Party?
dd: Yes. My party. I've told all my friends. They all said they'd come.
Me: Well that's very good, but were you planning on telling me at any point? When is this party?
dd: Oh. But I was really excited for my party

Plus we'er very limited in when we can have parties, especially ones which must be arranged last minute because hell would freeze over before DH planned and supervised a party and I work weekends and evenings and days and pretty much always right now

Of course the mum may just be unorganised but don't judge too harshly. If Fathers Day is more important just don't go. Or do Fathers Day on Saturday or Monday.

I had to give 4 days notice of DS1's birthday party (sleepover tomorrow. Gah). We forgot to give invitations out before the half-term jubilee nonsense, so 4 days was the best I could do. His actual birthday was on the jubilee but we've left it til this weekend because several of his friends were going away. If people can't come, they can't come. That's just the way it goes.

Now I realise that it encroaches on fathers' day too, but there really isn't a good time to have a party so it'll have to do. I didn't realise anyone actually cared enough about fathers' day to treat it like a super-special occasion.