sexting someone when I'm in a relationship?

[frappuccino]

He is my ex and our relationship was always more physical than anything else. Then we split up and I have a new partner but we have recently been in contact again. I don't have any plans to actually meet up with him. AIBU?

It depends if you would be happy in a role reversal.

Would you feel your new DP was being unreasonable if hew was sexting his ex.

Crappy behaviour. How would you feel if your partner "sexted" (yuck) another woman?

Does your partner know? And is he okay with it?

If so, YANBU. If not, YABU - you're going behind his back, and that's not fair.

YABU

HTH

Yes.

er, yes, YABU.

Course you are being unreasonablr

are you 16?

Even though the new relationship is not serious and I'm not actually going to meet him?

Yes, especially if your partner would be hurt if he found out.

And he probably will, these things have a way of making themselves known.

My friend is in the middle of a divorce because her husband was stupid enough to store another woman's number in his phone. They have very similar names (think Jane and Jan) and he sent an explicit text to Jane that was intended for Jan.

Utterly disgusting behaviour, decide who you want and only text them explicitly or otherwise

YABU for 'sexting' behind your partner's back

YABU for 'sexting' your ex (he's an ex for a reason presumably)

YABU for using the word 'sexting'

You say a new partner in your first post but then that the relationship isn't serious in your next one. That's a little confusing, does he see himself as your partner or as the man you are casually dating?

YABU and it is a betrayal of your new partner.

If your new relationship isn't serious then tell your current partner and see how he reacts

My husband had been doing this lately, and also emailing. I hit the roof and it nearly ended us, so yes I do think yabvvu

If you need to ask whether having sexual conversations with an ex partner with the intention of causing them arousal is 'unreasonable', you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone.

*with an ex partner whilst in a new relationship

...is how that should have read.

Texting saucy messages to an ex whilst single is probably fine.

[goes for a lie down]

You already know yabu.

You know you are acting like a div.

YABU, as you already know.

Yes YABU. It's not appropriate to do that when you're with someone else. Perhaps you consider it harmless flirting but it will lead to getting in the sack with him again and if you do not want to go there, then stop entirely.

The real questions is, would you like your new partner to be doing the same with an ex? I suspect the answer is no. It's a betrayal.

No matter how exciting you think sexting is, this isn't appropriate when you're in a relationship imo. Is your new relationship just fwb? That's a different matter if so.

If your new relationship is exclusive, then, er, yes. "Sexting" most definitely counts as cheating.

Different if it's a casual thing of course, but you said "in a relationship".

YABU, you know that though! If he doesn't know, wouldn't be happy with it and you wouldn't be happy in the reverse situation then YADBU.

Yes.