sexting someone when I'm in a relationship?

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He is my ex and our relationship was always more physical than anything else. Then we split up and I have a new partner but we have recently been in contact again. I don't have any plans to actually meet up with him. AIBU?

Why would you even need to ask?

If Your new relationship isn't doing it for you then at least have the decency to tell him!!

If your new relationship isn't serious ( presume he knows this) and you are not going to meet up with the old flame then what's your point.

Save your phone bills, ditch the present partner who you obviously don't give a crap about stop wasting time over an ex as he didn't work out, and try to find a mature relationship with a man.

Why would you do this if you are not going to meet him again? Just for cheap thrills? Someone will get hurt, why don't you 'sext' your DP instead?

Does your boyfriend know you aren't serious about him?

Yes, yabvu. Disgusting behaviour.

If you didn't think there was anything wrong with it you wouldn't be asking.
Will you tell your new partner that you are doing it?
If not why not?
Would you be happy for him to be doing it?

In my book cheating is cheating, regardless of wether it is having sex with someone, kissing, or 'sexting', it is still being unfaithful.

AUBU? Ask your boyfriend.

Sexting. Oh dearie me. That abomination alone makes you desperately unreasonable.

But having done my best to get past this stumbling block, I'm surprised you need MN to confirm that if you are in a relationship it is wrong to be sending messages of a sexual nature to anyone else.

You wouldnt do it if you were happy with your current partner. So yabu.
Would you be happy if your current partner was doing the same with his ex? No, thought not.

FeakAndWeeble is spot on
"If you need to ask whether having sexual conversations with an ex partner with the intention of causing them arousal is 'unreasonable', you are not mature enough to be in a relationship with anyone."