to not take my turn rocking the baby?

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for the first time in days, we managed to get three week old ds to sleep before 8pm. Brilliant. I run a hot bath, DH settles down to watch the football. Ten minutes later, there is a loud shout downstairs - DH yelling at the tv. Shortly after that, I hear ds start crying. Sure enough, the stupid man has woken the baby by needlessly shouting at the football .

I've just come out of my bath, and DH, who has spent the past hour rocking and jiggling ds who is refusing to go back to sleep, asks if I'll take a turn. I told him no. He woke the baby, he can bloody well get him back to sleep. AIBU?

No, YANBU.

uh, yes, yabu

your brand new baby needs his mum. DH woke him, yes, but he has then spent an hour soothing him while you have a nice bath

go and give your son a cuddle

Depends if baby will settle better with you or not doesn't it?

If he will, and you're just not rocking him because DH woke him up, then that's not very nice for your DS who might just want his mummy.

My little ones always settled better with me when they were tiny and making your DH do it, just to prove a point is silly.

If that is not the case, then of course YANBU

Actually he usually settles better with DH, because when I cuddle him he just starts rooting.

when my dts were 3 weeks old I hated rocking them my dh seemed to love it though and would do it for ages. Realised this week things have changed drastically. Second time this week dh has come into bedroom after weve 'put them to bed' to say 'oh has dt1/2 not settled?' me 'yes hes fast asleep' dh 'well bloody put him down then' Realised theyre 19 weeks now and LOVE rocking them cant get enough of those damn cuddles wish Id made the most of them before. So...the point is? Dont worry about whos turn just enjoy them cuddles and being the one to rock the baby...or buy a swing?

But if he's rooting, is he not hungry?

Do you feed on demand?

If you are breastfeeding him, then my guess is he would probably prefer mum.

Just my guess of course.

I like that motto, Natasha.

Anyway, congratulations

well yes, if he is cueing then feed him

these early weeks seem to drag on but before you know it he will be going longer between feeds and sleeping longer

congratulations on the birth of your baby

Yabu, especially if you're breastfeeding.

Thank you. He's my second. I'm finding I simply don't have the patience this time around and I just want him to grow up a bit. I know that sounds awful, but I'm just not a small baby person.

If he's been crying that long he'll be hungry by now

Yes OP.
It does sound awful!

3 weeks old ?
Rooting ?
Give him a feed and cuddle him !!!!

3 weeks old, he's been crying and jiggled around for an hour and is still crying, and you actually don't feel the need to hold him, or try to feed him?

He's probably hungry.

Damnbambo. Don't be so judgmental. I've met other honest people who've told me they much prefer it when baby is a bit older. Its really not that unusual.

YABU. Hes still tiny and needs his mum. Plus if he's rooting he's probably hungry.

OP, you sound cold and really quite callous.

Those early weeks are so exhausting. Hope you feel better soon.

poo think you'll find OP said she knew it sounded awful.

I'm just agreeing.

It's not about a young baby being boring, it's about not wanting to hold and comfort your 3 week old when he's been crying for an hour.

I had no qualms about developing bad habits, and therefore BF'ed my tiny DS to sleep at every possible opportunity. I do however well remember feeling all-touched-out by the end of the day, and just desperate for 10 minutes without skin contact with another human being!

How about taking a turn to feed him, and then if it doesn't work giving DS back to DH again?

feed him, it's a bit too late to decide you are not a small baby person. but kick DH in the shins as you go past :D

The sound of my baby crying so early on gave me an actual physical reaction and it didn't matter who had woken her up, I had to cuddle her.

Having said that, I remember DH waking her by looking for a phone charger in her room when she was about eight months and physically manhandled him out of there to scream at him

YABU he is 3 weeks old you have had an hours break having a bath go to your baby