to not take my turn rocking the baby?

[Rhubarbgarden]

for the first time in days, we managed to get three week old ds to sleep before 8pm. Brilliant. I run a hot bath, DH settles down to watch the football. Ten minutes later, there is a loud shout downstairs - DH yelling at the tv. Shortly after that, I hear ds start crying. Sure enough, the stupid man has woken the baby by needlessly shouting at the football .

I've just come out of my bath, and DH, who has spent the past hour rocking and jiggling ds who is refusing to go back to sleep, asks if I'll take a turn. I told him no. He woke the baby, he can bloody well get him back to sleep. AIBU?

If you'd fed him earlier he might not have cried for an hour though. And now he might be too distressed to latch. I always bathe with my daughter (15 months), how is lying in the bath nursing him not relaxing anyway?

OP,it sounds like you are very low. The fact that you, as DamnBamboo so kindly pointed out, don't want to hold your baby after he's been crying for so long is making me worry a little. It might be PND. Is there someone irl you can talk to?

Youre not a small baby person? . Did you want him to stay inside your uterus until he was 17 and be able to drive? Really strange. Put him to your boob and feed the poor thing. He won't stop crying until he feels secure.

Oh please whereare!

The baby is being held by somebody, OP just doesn't fancy it and thinks DH should do it.

Why on earth is the default option that it's PND, especially when OP says herself that she finds young babies boring.

She doesn't sound low to me.

but...

OP, if you're low, my apologies if anything I've said offended you.

I didn't read this that the baby has been crying for an hour, just that he hasn't gone back to sleep and OP's DH has been rocking / shushing. I'm not sure if Rhubarb IS saying her baby's been crying for an hour. Am I the only one who reads it this way...

Feed baby - 3 weeks is growth spurt time. Then tear a strip off DH speak firmly to DH about the need for football-related restraint.

And hope for better for next bath. This too shall pass.

Yabu but if you frown at dh blag a nice cup of tea and perhaps a foot rub when you've got your lo to sleep that's fine

A friend of mine took two hours to get her dd off to sleep one night and her dh woke her with a loud fart! Now she is 11 and they can laugh about it but at the time it nearly ended their marriage

Anyway, OP, your dh was thoughtless, he has been trying for an hour, I think he may have learned his lesson, have a little cuddle with your baby and if you feed him now you won't have to do it again for a few hours and can get some kip

A bath on your own at 3 weeks? Baby sleeping for the night by 8pm? You're doing well!

I can't quite recall if I've washed my hair in the past 7 weeks!

Wow, YABU!

Ok just to clarify, he wasn't crying for an hour, he was whinging when put down, fine when held and jiggled. He wasn't hungry; he had had a big feed just before he initially went to sleep. DH got him off to sleep again shortly after I posted and he has been snoring and grunting contentedly ever since.

I'm pretty sure I'm not the only person who finds small babies hard work and not very interesting. I do, however, like them very much once they get to about six months and there is more interaction. So you can stop hoiking those judgy pants.

I am now going to wake him up and feed him. And then try to do something with DH who has been crying for an hour, as his football team lost.

I totally understand the yearning to punish him for waking the baby by shouting at a silly game, time "off" is so important when they're that little and feel like they're attached all of the time...but, he's only 3 weeks old. If he's been crying and fussing for an hour, he'll have made himself hungry and so needs his Mummy.

Give him a cuddle, make you husband bring you a drink and a cake and settle him back down again.

The remind him in no uncertain terms that if he wakes the baby again - you'll have his balls

Oops x posted.

Try convincing him that making the baby cry is a bad omen for his team. He'll be quiet as a mouse next time.

Glad to hear that he wasn't crying the whole time and that he is now content OP.

Tell your DH the only jiggling that will happen if he does it again, is his arse against your foot!

Ah send him to me I love newborns but always found age 6 months to 18 months really hard work so you know I'll send him back!!

Cats you've got yourself a deal!

Excellent snuffling newborn no weaning hurrah!

the moral of this story is don't shag men that watch football.

I hated the little baby stage. I LOVE hanging out with DD now she is 18 mo, what a laugh. It will fly by, though.

Jesus! The judgey people on this thread!

I bet if a man said he wasn't so keen on the baby stage there wouldn't be half the reaction, but as you are a woman you are expected to love every minute of it.

I hope there is no one reading this thread who feels similar to the op who now as a result feel shit about themselves and inadequate as a mum.