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to want to buy a Father's Day card that just says "Happy Father's Day"?

28 replies

jandymaccomesback · 13/06/2012 19:34

All the cards I've seen have been totally inappropriate for my DF. He is teatotal, doesn't fish, never tells rude jokes about farting and to be honest is not the world's best father. Surely I am not the only one who just wants to wish their DF a happy day without being silly about it.

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WorraLiberty · 13/06/2012 19:36

I don't know where you shop but there are loads of neutral ones around here

FeakAndWeeble · 13/06/2012 19:37

Yep. Try finding one for a step father. They mostly say crud like 'You're just like a daddy to me!' with a picture of a teddy holding a flower on it. My DSD is a fat, dour Yorkshireman who married my mother when I was 24 and is not, nor has he ever been, like a 'daddy' to me.

WHY can't they just have a cheerful bloody card with Happy Father's Day on it??

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 13/06/2012 19:38

YANBU. I have thought exactly the same thing today because I wanted to buy my ex a card that just says 'Happy Fathers Day'. (nothing wierd, we just like to show our appreciation of each other as co parents) Every vaguely decent card said Dad or Daddy on it, and clearly my ex isn't either of those to me! And like you say, the cards are all either trying to be funny and failing or they are twee, or they are completely inappropriate. It's crap.

It seems completely different for mothers day.

FeakAndWeeble · 13/06/2012 19:40

Keep watching the thread Worra, if enough people agree with the OP you could find a nice sideline here!

Juniper904 · 13/06/2012 19:40

I'm struggling to find a "you're a c*#@ and have systematically wrecked my confidence" card too. Might moon pig it...

GoldenGreen · 13/06/2012 19:40

Yanbu but you can design your own on a website like moonpig - that's what I tend to do.

AWomanCalledHorse · 13/06/2012 19:42

Yanbu. I hate cards, cannot wait until DS is old enough to (be forced into) making cards so I don't have to bother trying to find something decent.
I struggled badly on Mothers Day...thank fuck my father has nothing to do with me (only had to buy DH & FIL cards, both are easy because they're soppy old gits).

crashdoll · 13/06/2012 19:46

YANBU.

In all 3 of the shops I went to, they were all "to beer drinking, farting, super dads". My suggestion was a card that says: to a very average father, have a very average day.

Nuttyprofessor · 13/06/2012 19:47

Absolutely agree. Trying to find one for my father, if I sent one saying thank you for everything you are the best dad in the world, he would think I was being even more sarcastic than usual.

RoxyRobin · 13/06/2012 19:55

Just buy an undedicated, all-purpose card with a suitable picture on it and write the words on it yourself.

For example, I always used to get my FIL Joe Cornish photograph cards for Father's Day.

MeconiumHappens · 13/06/2012 19:55

moonpig!

redyam · 13/06/2012 20:38

You could print your own, with any design you want. All you need is a printer, obviously and some glossy photo quality paper.

Then attach some cardboard to strenghen it up, and print a greeting for the inside. Bung it in an envelope ( you will need to buy one!) then voila! A personalised quality fathers day card for 1/10th the price!

redyam · 13/06/2012 20:40

I did the above with

www.code-d.com/tesco-cards/fathers-day-card.php

Though I only recommend this if they see the funny side!

MrsTittleMouse · 13/06/2012 20:41

I have the opposite problem - they all say Happy Fathers Day, but fathers day isn't really happy in our family since my brother died. I hunt and hunt to find the card that just says Love on Fathers Day, or similar. I don't understand why there aren't cards for us, I bet we're not alone. :(

jandymaccomesback · 14/06/2012 15:03

Love the Tesco card, but would definitely meet with pursed lips from my mother!
MrsTittleMouse I think I am going to look for a blank all purpose card, which is probably all you can do. Sad

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TroublesomeEx · 14/06/2012 15:07

FeakandWeeble you buy your mum's husband a father's day card? Confused

My mother remarried when I was 26. He was not and never would have been my stepfather, why would you send him a card?

(Just very curious Smile)

nickelbarapasaurus · 14/06/2012 15:09

Try finding a Mothering Sunday card in Lent (for mothering Sunday - if I wanted to celebrate international Mother's Day in May, then fine, but I don't, I want to celebrate Mothering Sunday )

Why don't you make you r own?

FeakAndWeeble · 14/06/2012 17:03

FolkGirl - It makes my mum happy. Small things!

lazarusb · 14/06/2012 17:09

I have the same problem with Mothers Day. My Mum was far from the greatest and I resent sending her cards telling her she is wonderful. I have resorted to getting the dcs to make her a card from all of us.

sereneswan · 14/06/2012 17:11

YANBU. My dad is not into golf, boats, cricket, football, angling, gardening, DIY, vintage planes or farting.

I just buy the plain all-year-round no-message art/photography cards for everyone I know regardless of occassion and write the appropriate sentiment myself.

manorborn · 14/06/2012 17:11

I am so totally with you. I have tried loads of different shops and finally found a fairly neutral one in M&S. What a relief! Most are absolutely dreadful!!

bigbluebus · 14/06/2012 18:53

Have exactly the same problem myself. We are not soppy verse kind of family and likewise my father doesn't drink, play golf, go fishing or fart in company. Managed to find a card in WH Smiths eventually after trawling the high street card shops. Agree M&S are usually quite good for cards without loads of soppy sentiments in them - but there isn't one in my local town

Islandlady · 14/06/2012 18:56

I have the same problem my Mum died three week ago and there was no way I can give my Dad a jokey FD card even one that said 'happy' FD is not really appropriate as it certainly will not be a happy occasion but I do need to mark the day, My dad has a Boxer dog and so have managed to get a blank card with a Boxer on it for him and have written a nice message for him

maybenow · 14/06/2012 18:57

i always buy a nice blank card and just write a message - this year's is a nice photo of a lake and mountains.

my dad is great but i don't really do soppy and he doesn't do football or beer or rude jokes or fishing or cars or yachts...

averageyorkshiremum · 14/06/2012 20:34

Actually I disagree, I like the variety of cards on sale this year, it's been really easy to find a passive/aggressive jokey card for DH about stuff he does that really annoys me in the guise of a heartfelt 'ha ha thats a good one' Smile I am of course kidding I would never do that Wink but thats all their seems to be this end. M and s do nice black and white photo ones with a blank message though, which are good.

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