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to be utterly fed up with this behaviour?

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hatesponge · 13/06/2012 11:55

My DS is 13 (Yr 9). Since the start of the year he has failed to go to school on at least 5, possibly as many as 10 occasions. The latest is today. He has a detention (because he forgot/couldn't be bothered to do) a piece of homework, and I expect he hasn't gone in to get out of it, his previous absences have been for the same reason - or because he hasn't done a piece of homework so has stayed at home to finish it. Or just because school is boring, he felt a bit tired and didn't feel like going in. When he does go in he is usually late even though the school is at most a 10 minute walk (closer to 5) from our house.

His school is v poor academically and their unauthorised absence rate is massive, so although I get a call to say he's not there, they don't do anything more, as far as they're concerned it's just one less pupil to manage.

I am at the end of my tether. I can take away his Xbox or phone, but it makes no difference, he'll stop for a couple of weeks then just do it again and again, he always does. I've tried to explain the importance of school attendance time & again but he says most of the time he learns very little so what's the point? At the rate he is going I can see him ending up with crap GCSEs and losing any chance of university or a decent job.

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hatesponge · 13/06/2012 13:23

I am at work now, so can't do anything about stopping his Xbox access until I get home. As soon as I do it will be removed, but I can't do anything about it right now.

Re meeting with the school, I suppose I had hoped it wouldn't be necessary and DS would snap out of it. Clearly that isn't going to happen. I am now emailing his tutor to ask for an appt.

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BumpingFuglies · 13/06/2012 13:29

Sounds like a good plan OP. Even though you're not there when he leaves for school, you are phoning him, so that's good. TBH even if you were there it might not make a difference!

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