AIBU to get hacked off with this kind of remark?

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I was walking past a queue at the bus stop this morning when a bloke popped out to gurn at me and say 'Don't look so bloody miserable. It's not the end of the world'. Now, I don't expect random strangers to know my back-story when I'm walking down the street, or make allowances for it. But in fact, on top of a shitload of other serious problems, my Dad died recently. So recently that we haven't had the funeral yet. Why the buggering fuck should I have to pin on a smile just in case some bloke gets offended that I'm not delighted to see his dozy face?
Honestly, I thought I'd left this kind of shitty comment behind when I hit forty.

This pisses me off too, its so rude and none of their business anyway.

Someone at work said to a colleague when they walked in one day, whats up with you miserable - someone died or something? and laughed. My colleague said yes actually, my brother was knocked off his bike and killed last night!

I'd have told him it was hat bad actually.

Hate when people do that, it's just bloody ignorant.

Brecon I am sorry for your loss, must be an awful one for you.

I think that men who come out with this, need putting in their place everytime.

I was widowed young and whilst walking through, in and out of hospital waiting for my DH to die, i got this.

It is connected to the idea that women are mearly decorative.

Ugh! I hate that! I'm glad I don't get that any more, I think I'm too old or because I've moved to the back of beyond. Why should we go around all day grinning like weirdos just to please random twattish men.

I seem to get 'you're a bit pale aren't you!' comments these days. The odd thing is that I'm not particularly pale but neither am I orange.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I stopped dead in my tracks and could literally feel the bile rising. Luckily there was still some sane part of my mind telling me it wasn't worth losing the plot. I just asked 'What would you know about it?' and walked on. He didn't reply.

Yes Birds it probably is the women are decorative thing. Makes me so . Why should I get 'pale' comments, I mean I'm in bloody Scotland, everyone's pale!

I get the 'you're very pale' comments too, as I don't tan (naturally or otherwise).

I just say "Thanks!" and smile as I would with any other compliment... reactions are priceless.

I agree that it seems to be something only men say to only women (who they don't know that it is). It's very odd. I'm generally a happy looking person so it has only happened to me when I've been genuinely upset about something and it feels very demeaning.

That would've made my blood boil, your restraint is impressive.

So sorry for your loss.

i hate this too :( but usually as it's because i am generally happy and just have a humpy face!

oh some people are SO unaware of the rest of the human race it beggars belief! Sorry for your loss I hate it when idiots come out with thoughtless comments.

I was once leaving the hospital main entrance after a minor eye op...I was weaing a patch and some twit a 50 ish man called out "You should have ducked!" and I thought "how insensitive! I might have just had my eye removed for all he knows!"

I had this in Tesco some random bloke telling me i looked sad - I told him i was sad my mum had just died that morning....

He looked blankly at me said nope have nothing else to say but i am going to give you a hug... and he did ;)

I expect he will think before he engages his mouth for a little while

They should engage their brain. A random person said it to me when my DH had just died.

Brecon I am sorry for your loss. Your calm is astounding in the circumstances. Your dad did well with you.

Sorry for your loss Brecon.

A good reply is "Who wouldn't be miserable seeing a face like that" - while pointing to the man's face and walking on.

Sorry for your loss. That sort of comment is just inane. And yes to do with women being decorative. When I was about fifteen a bloke shouted at me on the street 'don't worry love, you might turn into a swan one day!'.
Self-esteemed crushed.

Had similar witty and original remark - "Cheer up, it might never happen!" - said to me the day my dad died thirty years ago.

I pointed this out to him so he could apologize for his insensitive remark, but he just stood there looking gormless. I did hope it might put him off doing this ever again, but I doubt it.

I remember someone telling me that 'it may never happen' just after we had buried dad. I just said 'it already has'.

Sorry for your loss.

Why do men DO that? Always men. Women never seem to.

It is twattery of the highest order.

I hate it when men say this. I used to get it a lot, probably because I walk along thinking about things so probably looked quite serious. I wanted to slap the idiot who said it every time. Your idiot needs a double slap and you need a hug from the nice man in Tesco's!

I once said to someone at work who I usually joked about with "you look dressed for a funeral" then spent the rest of the day removing foot from mouth as indeed he was dressed for a funeral. As the words left my mouth I instantly regretted it. I have learned very quickly not to make stupid comments, unfortunatley people are thoughtless.

Big hug - sorry about your dad, never an easy loss to deal with xx

I really don't understand why anyone would make a comment like that to a stranger. They could be intruding on any number of awful feelings. It shows an incredible lack of empathy.

For about 6 months the neighbours opposite were having work done. Nearly every fucking morning the main builder would make a comment.

Cheer up love, might never happen.
God, your actually smiling today.
oooh wrong side of bed this morning? etc etc etc

Normally I'm not too bad with the comebacks but he started to make me feel so uncomfortable every time I wanted to leave the house.

I hate those types of comments.

I look miserable all the time it's just the way my face falls so get it a lot.