Because I am a whiny private school parent and I am cross that my dd didn't make the team...

[nummus]

...but the PE teacher's dd did, despite being a year younger.

And I am cross about it, because the PE teacher's dd will have another year to have a go.

isnt it split into Key Sages? so they would both be KS2?

We just had this - the Netball Coach's DD made the team, mine didn't.

But, like mother, like daughter - the coach's daughter is tall, athletic and brilliant at netball.

My DD is a petty good player, but was luckily mature enough to recognise that the best person was picked, and was quite philosophical about it. It's a life lesson, tbh. You may be good, but sometimes not quite good enough.

And I know the coach; she wouldn't dream of favouritism.

PRETTY good player....

Op mentioned separate Y4 and 5 teams iirc?

Get over it. End of.

Am open-mouthed at the coach awarding his DS the trophy 3 years on the trot.
Thankfully DH is not a coach, so we can't be accused of nepotism. One of the older team coaches awarded his son with the Players Player cup which he said he won "by a country mile". He is DD's BF!

Oh I am so with you on this OP. So rant away at the unfairness of it all (on here).

At DDs school (private) they are so obsessed with winning that instead of playing a Y8 team in matches they use some of the Y7 girls who are better than the Y8s. This means they win bloody everything but frequently get left out of competitoins because no one wants to play them. If it is, say, and U14s competition then it is OK (imo) to use your best players, but a Y8 team should be made up from Y8.

I am girding my loins ready for trouble next year. DD is currently in Y7 and on the netball team, but I know there are some good players in the September intake and I am worried that DD will lose her place on the team as they play younger girls instead.

Of course, like you, in real life I shrug my shoulders whilst inwardly seething.

It'snotfair.......

I'm a bit surprised that a child is selected out of year group. There is a child at DD's school who is excellent at a particular sport (with siblings who are also very good). They could all easily stuff children two or three years older, but compete in their year group.

But there is no bar to children competing up a level, and if there were proper trials, running is one of the things where it is easier to demonstrate merit selection - not just winning one race, but consistently being in the winning few.

*Oh I am so with you on this OP. So rant away at the unfairness of it all (on here).

At DDs school (private) they are so obsessed with winning that instead of playing a Y8 team in matches they use some of the Y7 girls who are better than the Y8s. This means they win bloody everything but frequently get left out of competitoins because no one wants to play them. If it is, say, and U14s competition then it is OK (imo) to use your best players, but a Y8 team should be made up from Y8.

I am girding my loins ready for trouble next year. DD is currently in Y7 and on the netball team, but I know there are some good players in the September intake and I am worried that DD will lose her place on the team as they play younger girls instead.

Of course, like you, in real life I shrug my shoulders whilst inwardly seething.

It'snotfair.......*

REALLY?

Yes

Oh

Me neither bejeezus - but for some reason I have vicarious competitiveness when it comes to DD.

I am competitive, but I am not stupid. I know dd2 isn't the best sports person in her year, I am not blind! But what I do know is that her dedication and keeness IS rare and I think maybe that should have been 'rewarded' instead of giving a girl from a younger year group 'her slot'. She would have been the one that was on the team if the PE teacher's dd hadn't taken the Year 5 place.

I have the opposite problem with dd1 - she always runs a year above her age which I also don't like, because she'd win a LOT if she ran in her proper year 7 age group .

I have been very smug this term as during winter PE teacher who selects teams (well known for favourites) only took DD for gymnastics which she is not good at. However, when this term DD got in the pool swam all four strokes legally at speed with biphasic freestyle breathing the teacher has suddenly sat up and taken notice.

Maybe we should start a campaign nummus - YearGroupsUnited

I am still struggling to relate my DCs accounts of their abilities to reality. DS (Y5) tells me he is rubbish at everything but is clearly not completely so as he makes teams (not first team, generally, but up there in the top 1/3 of the year) - except in running, where he struggles to remain motivated by beating his own personal best when he is one of the slowest. DD (YR) assures me that she is a really fast runner. I remain sceptical and am dreading looking forward to sports day when there will no doubt be some very good reason why it is someone/something else's fault that she doesn't win.

YANBU - it happens at my DS's school, it was great when he was in Year 5 and picked for U-11's hockey, not so good now he is in Year 7 and doesn't make the rugby team but lots of Year 6's do.

I like to think the school knows what it is doing, but sometimes....

Cricket is a big problem at the moment. DS is often man-of-the-match and top scorer for his out of school club, but only occasionally gets picked for the school team. And the school team lose most matches. It's almost as though they have decided DS is still as average as cricket as he was in year 4, and can't see that he is good now.

Grrrr.

Why is it relevant that you are a private school parent?
If your children went to a state school would this have not bothered you?