Because I am a whiny private school parent and I am cross that my dd didn't make the team...

[nummus]

...but the PE teacher's dd did, despite being a year younger.

And I am cross about it, because the PE teacher's dd will have another year to have a go.

Aw thank you worra, I know (I have a very undetermined older dd ). That's a nice thing to say

Oh I have an undetermined older DS but the lucky git keeps right on falling on his feet, so he thinks I'm always unreasonable when I moan about him

it comes as quite a surprise how disappointing it is when they don't win something or get in the team or ... whatever it is. of course i am not disappointed that she didn't get chosen for something despite hours of sewing to make a costume

here and for later to help ease those sympathy muscles.

I think it would be hard not to suspect a teeny bit of nepotism irregardless of whether or not you a a whiny fee paying parent or a suspicious state school parent.

Ha, yes my undetermined older dd is in every single sports team despite not giving a monkey's

A PE teacher once told me that teacher kids get picked over other kids for teams etc as they have to turn up.
hence in this case the pe teacher has to be there so her kid will have to be there too whether or not she is in the team so might as well be as she will in team

If fairness was that important to everyone, we wouldn't have private schools, would we?

Having said that, I'd be peed off too. Ds never gets picked for anything (although to be fair he never really puts himself forward either, the slacker).

Have a few to gird your loins for an almighty playground ding dong come pick up.*

• Don't really.

"the pe teacher has to be there so her kid will have to be there too"

Only if the teacher is a single parent.

toughasoldboots

You just cannot do that! Even if he is the best! It's like letting the birthday girl win pass the parcel! Not on!

DS2 was picked as player of the year despite his coaches having sons in the team [smug]

However, in DS1's team all the coaches sons are in the A team
And the coaches are all unable to turn up for B team games because they have to be at the A team ones

Toughasoldboots that is so annoying unless he's that brilliant of course

Well, yes she will have to be there but there is a Year 4 team that she could have been in rather than taking a space on the Year 5 (gets started again)

Try not to let your disappointment show to DD. DS didn't win a dress up comp at school. I was mightily possed off at it was quite creative, unique and damn well executed (ie lots of running around by me!). The winner had a dress up costume bought from a store.

Me 'whaaaaaa the ffffffffffffffff....? Ooh, that's great sweetie... What shall we have for tea?'

Some people are tossers. That's the only possible explanation.

These outrageous (non-school) teams where they award Player of the Year to their own children; do children have to join the village/park/whatever team or can they vote with their feet and sign up with a neighbouring one?

Grump away, OP. It will help you deal with DD later. I had to take the "yes, it's shit, but at least you won't be getting back to school at 7pm on Saturday and will actually get to see your Grandparents" when despite professing not to particularly like cricket DS turned out to be somewhat gutted not to have made a team.

If there is a Y4 team, and your DD is about on a par with teachers DD, it does seem a bit daft not to get her DD to strengthen the Y4 team and give the Y5 team place to your DD.

I am not at all sure there is a logical reason.

Toughasoldboots that really is very bad, the Coach sounds like a prat trying to keep his ds happy.

..and the awards to your own DC thing is crap. The parent I know who coaches club rugby never gives things to his own DS, despite the fact that his DS is, in fact, the best player, and gets picked for county and country teams. Fortunately the chairman stepped in and invented an "outstanding individual contribution" award, didn't tell the coach, and gave it to coach's DS.

Thems the breaks.

Only a certain number of places pub the team, lord of people competing for them.

Why not motivate your daughter that she needs to work/train harder to ensure she is an automatic pick got athletics teams in high school, rather than fostering a sense of unfairness and being hard done to.

Grr predictive texts.

not making the team is a very important life lesson

stop whining

Actually, why should a Y4 child be taking a place on the Y5 team? Unless there aren't enough interested Y5 children, the Y4 should compete at their own level.

YANBU op!