I just dont know if I am being unreasonable or not. I was made redundant end of Jan, so relying on DH's mediocre salary. It pretty much just about covers bills and very little else.
Sister has a long story tbh, but in a nutshell:
she is 17 months older me. Always thought she would marry and have kids, as she always boyfriends, even been engaged etc. I had very few boyfriends, but it was me at age 40 that got married and had two kids. DH is divorcee and already had two kids, which we had to support. I carried on working to keep job open, but nursery fees plus 1/3rd of private school fees for first two kids, pretty much ate my salary. Both salaries didn't cut the mustard, and we just built debts. House was near on derelict and we just kept pulling off the mortgage to get things done.
There is more of a story than that... but back to sis. She never married, and I believe she holds some jealousy of me. We have a love\hate relationship, and I am fearful of her, because she is strong willed and always overcomes me in a tiff. Very opinionated blah blah. Someone just said that my dh has two wives living with him.
She upped sticks recently and took on another job about 1 hour away from us, because she wanted to be nearer us and our mother, a further 2 hours away -diff direction.
The new job did not work out after a week. So I said for her to come and stay, sort herself out. That was 2 months ago.
She has contributed £100 in that time.
Other than the finance, there are other hangups of her staying here, and I seriously cant cope anymore. The kids want her gone as she has zero tolerance of them.
But DH says she is family and we should support her. But our finances are going back in the red, we are currently £155 od, and dh not getting paid till end of month. We used any redundancy money to help clear last lot of debts, so nothing to support us there.
In my head I know what I should do, and I want to ask her for £50 a week. But she runs on emotional blackmail, and boy she is good.
I want to cry, as we are not a big family, at all and the last thing I want to do is make her feel unloved or unwanted. But I'm sure... ?? I'm not being unreasonable. She still has her flat, and has taken temp work where we are, when she can get it, and is trying for permanant roles... but they seem far and few.
Because her flat is on a commuter line into London, we have suggested that she place the flat with a Letting agency whilst the olympics, tennis etc is on, and she could pull in a wicked price. But she says she cant cope with job hunting and do all the sorting for that as well. She has gone back to her flat this week, and Im hoping she thinks more about that.
thanks for listening. Sorry it is so long. 