To object to someone pushing in a queue and telling them so?

[Goldenbear]

My DS has a inset day today so I said I'd take him to the city centre on the train as he likes going on the train. I had 14 month old DD with me aswell. We intended to meet DP with some Lunch as DP works in the City centre and DP was going to take the children into the library whilst I went and got a prescription.

I went to M&S for the food, the manned tills were packed so I went to queue at the self checkout. I was queuing behind a woman with a baby. I noticed a woman with a boy about 7 just to the side of us all queuing. The woman with the baby looked over at her to but then a till became available for her. I decided to politely point out there was a queue to the woman with the boy. She replied that she knew that and she was next. The woman with the baby turned around from scanning her shopping and said, 'no she is!'. The woman who pushed in then explained to us all in the one queue, directing her reply at me, how there are two queues, one for those paying with just card at the self service checkout and one for those paying by cash or card- she was in that queue and everyone else was in the other. So I said, 'according to who, you? Do you think I'm standing here for fun!'. The woman then said, 'does it matter?'. Everyone in the queue was watching and the woman who had the baby in the buggy, scanning through her shopping said, 'maybe not for you'. A couple in the queue then loudly proclaimed, 'that's not the point!'

Anyway, I didn't say anything else but then thought afterwards maybe I did make a mountain and all that... The thing is I was meeting DP and DS also wanted to go in the library with him. It's lunch time so DS and I wanted to meet him on time. So in that respect yes it did matter. Not that this woman new all that but I just thought she was so bloody arrogant.

Is she right, AIBU for caring?

Is no one going to admit to queue jumping?
hi, my name is Rhett and I jumps queues sometimes. Its amazing how many people don't say a word either! If someone jumps in front of me usually call them on it but if they do it with style I sometimes laugh it off.

I don't think its a massive deal in the grand scheme of things is it?

I do it in the car too.

YANBU at all. I hate Que. jumpers. Unfortunately my mother is a blatant Que. jumper. She always does it to me if we are both buying something and does that "oh sorry you go first" bullshit when caught. I usually don't mind and it was becoming a small joke but she does it now even if I'm
In a que and she will skip people behind and pAy separately. Well she tries to as I explain loudly that she isn't next. It's just so rude.
I also man self service tills at work and
my stomach turns when I see que jumpers.

Of course I wouldn't jump in front of a pensioner or someone with a baby (unless I've got my baby with me of course)

Oh! And don't get me STARTED on petrol stations! [Rage]

MammaTJ,

I mean it, I don't care which we choose, just pick one and stick to it.

I did remove half a dozen football supporters from a bus in Edinburgh once who shoved past myself and a few elderlies, much to everyones surprise,

I don't do bulling, disregarding others is a form of bulling, and I don't allow that type of behaviour near me.

I inherited my stare from my mother, best thing in the world, I don't know I am doing it, but it scares the toenails off people.

This always seems to happen when a new till is opened. The person at the back of the queue advance to the newly opened-till, and everyone else has to keep waiting!

Checkout assistants should be trained to invite those near the front of the queue across to the newly-opened till.

Is anyone else just dying for that serendipitous moment when MrsRhettButler and quoteunquote are in the same queue. I have an image of a python unhinging it's jaw and swallowing its prey whole... (that's you quoteunquote)

I have accidentally queue-jumped a couple of times, those queues which are tensa-barriered off, and away from the actual till point...

Once in WHSmith, I was in the middle of the transaction when something in the assistant's manner caused me to turn around, and only then did I notice the the line behind the barrier. It was miles away. I did offer to stop and go to the back, but she told me to just carry on (amused) I apologised many times to their blank, glaring faces.

The other time I managed to not see an enormous queue standing about half a mile back from the ticket grotto in Clapham Junction station, but luckily was stopped just before reaching the machine.

I'm not rude, just unobservant (now that's a good excuse)

waveorcheer - thank you. He is less lovely at 5am when he generally does a poo-feed-poo sandwich!

The queue in question was near Bristol if that helps!

oh I do love a good barney, I'd defo go for survival of the fittest

"I apologised many times to their blank, glaring faces."

Have to laugh at your description, you're spot on! :o Why can't people be a bit nicer and more forgiving at a genuine mistake?

"This always seems to happen when a new till is opened. The person at the back of the queue advance to the newly opened-till, and everyone else has to keep waiting!
Checkout assistants should be trained to invite those near the front of the queue across to the newly-opened till."

this is exactly what happened to me this morning. I'm recovering from a vomiting bug and had got caught in rainy rush hour traffic dropping DS at nursery (usually walk it in 35 minutes, took me an hour in the car!). I went to the supermarket for nappys (for DS not me) and cat food, and the 2 people behind me ran, RAN, over when the assistant asked me to come over. they had their goods on the belt before I could think to what to say. plus I was afraid of throwing up if I had a row. so stood and fort back tears instead

Quoteunquote, I don't really have 'a look' that anyone would be scared of that's why she probably proceeded to the next free check out without a second glance.

I understand that people que jump in ignorance but I can't understand why someone would think it's ok.

MrsRhettButler, M&S in Brighton food hall is pretty much occupied by retired (at a guess) older people and people with preschool children and babies in pushchairs at 11.30. I had my DD in a pushchair, my DS 5 with me, directly behind me was and old couple and then an old man. My children were waiting patiently, I'm unsure why this woman didn't think this was a bit taxing for all concerned! I wasn't marvelling at her pushing in technique. In the scheme of things it is not a big deal but neither is it a big deal for her to go to the back if the que and wait - like the rest of us!!

*fought

I don't really have 'a look' that anyone would be scared of
I give lessons on how to do it,

oh I do love a good barney, I'd defo go for survival of the fittest

I've been waiting years for someone to call me out on it, no one ever does, I do look very scary apparently.

as for the snake, I use to have a boa constrictor but he's now in a zoo.

I thoroughly approve of people who call up queue jumpers and urge everyone to do it. It's just so rude and entitled.

I was recently waiting for the tube at Canary Wharf... I'd been working darn sarf for a couple of weeks and had been impressed by everyone formed polite lines for the packed tubes at home time.

One day I noticed a woman appear at the side of my 30-strong line. The train pulls in and I notice her readying herself to get on the train. I was about ten people back and said very loudly: 'Excuse me, this is the line and we have all been waiting patiently. WHO do you think you are?'

She mumbled something and didn't get on that train but continued to hover to the side rather than joining the massive queue. I told her off again and then we ended up squashed up against each other on the next train so I reiterated my point. She looked down and didn't say anything and got off one stop later.

No-one else said anything at all though!

YANBU
I'm another that gets wound up by queue jumpers. I find it's my duty to inform them that I/people were before them.

It's rude and ignorant and makes me so bloody mad.

My DP drives me crazy on this subject, he'll happily allow people to jump ahead of him and just wait ever so patiently :@ WTF :)

I don't mind if I have a trolley full of shopping and someone behind me has just a few items, I'll offer them to go before me or will let them if I don't notice and they ask me.

"Does it matter?"

"No of course not! So why don't you get to the back of the queue, if it doesn't matter to you?"

Yes BalloonSlayer, exactly, wish i'd thought of it at the time or even just walked straight in front of her when the next free till became available.

There was a a good anti-queue jumping scene in Poundland recently (see how I have brought it downmarket from M&S and Waitrose)

The queue was really long and this youngish man (well possibly under 30) went up to an old lady at the front and asked if he could go in front of her. She said "Of course you can dear" but then another woman behind objected and pointed out we were all waiting. The bloke started to get a bit arsey and the old lady kept saying she didn't mind, clearly not grasping that if she let him in in front of her she was letting him in front of all the rest of us. Anyway several of us in the queue continued to object and he tried to excuse himself by explaining he had parked on double yellows so needed to get out quickly before he got a ticket!

I mean talk about entitled - not only does he not want to pay to park properly like everone else but he expected other people to make way for him to enable this. Anyway when everyone continued to object he eventually flounced.

Sometimes I will stand there and mutter to myself, other times I will point out the queue. It depends what mood I'm in.

I nearly queue jumped at the SS in Sainburys recently. The queue was standing miles back from the tills so I went and stood close by thinking they were really quiet. Then DS1 pointed out the huge queue of glaring people, and I ran away embarrassed to the manned checkouts!

A good death stare is a fabulous thing. My own mother is scared of me when I give her The Look

I do hate queue jumpers and I seethe about it quietly to myself but I never dare say anything because the one time I did (think I was about 18) it went so badly wrong:

Themepark. Had been queueing with friends for over an hour. Reached front of queue and stood by barrier waiting for next train. A woman appears and stands right next to us. I said 'excuse me, the queue goes right outside, you have to go to the back'. She glared at me and then I saw her husband coming up behind her with two severely disabled children. I actually wanted to die!

YANBU. I dislike them too.
It always makes me wonder what kind of people they are...not that I really need to wonder - if they they can do it in a queue, they will certainly do it on the road/in a car, 'the line' is invisible to them and if they can get away with something they will. It doesn't occur to them that they shouldn't!

It's just plain rude.You can be mistaken sometimes that's only natural but pushing in with intent makes me