To object to someone pushing in a queue and telling them so?

[Goldenbear]

My DS has a inset day today so I said I'd take him to the city centre on the train as he likes going on the train. I had 14 month old DD with me aswell. We intended to meet DP with some Lunch as DP works in the City centre and DP was going to take the children into the library whilst I went and got a prescription.

I went to M&S for the food, the manned tills were packed so I went to queue at the self checkout. I was queuing behind a woman with a baby. I noticed a woman with a boy about 7 just to the side of us all queuing. The woman with the baby looked over at her to but then a till became available for her. I decided to politely point out there was a queue to the woman with the boy. She replied that she knew that and she was next. The woman with the baby turned around from scanning her shopping and said, 'no she is!'. The woman who pushed in then explained to us all in the one queue, directing her reply at me, how there are two queues, one for those paying with just card at the self service checkout and one for those paying by cash or card- she was in that queue and everyone else was in the other. So I said, 'according to who, you? Do you think I'm standing here for fun!'. The woman then said, 'does it matter?'. Everyone in the queue was watching and the woman who had the baby in the buggy, scanning through her shopping said, 'maybe not for you'. A couple in the queue then loudly proclaimed, 'that's not the point!'

Anyway, I didn't say anything else but then thought afterwards maybe I did make a mountain and all that... The thing is I was meeting DP and DS also wanted to go in the library with him. It's lunch time so DS and I wanted to meet him on time. So in that respect yes it did matter. Not that this woman new all that but I just thought she was so bloody arrogant.

Is she right, AIBU for caring?

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Absolutely understand the confusion over Tesco Express ones but M&S Brighton has SS away from the other tills, three tills one side, three tills another side. I did grave an argument with her because she looked at me like I was unhinged when I said, 'Jesus, do you think I'm standing here for fun!' and I questioned her queuing system.

In our local coop at the weekend, I was queue jumped by an entitled old man and a member of their staff. It's another confusing queuing system but that's really no excuse for rudeness. If someone else has been there longer than you, then they get served first.

I was queuing at the self checkouts in a supermarket today when a woman jumped in front of me. The person who had been infront of me in the queue told her that actually it was my turn next, but the queue jumper insisted that there were two different queues for the self checkout (one for cash, one for cash or card). I didn't say anything but other people in the queue made a negative comment towards her. I was in a hurry so it did matter to me that she pushed in. Aibu to still be thinking about this 5 hours later?

I can't tell you how many times I have pulled a queue jumper.

We used to live abroad, I was in the cinema waiting in line for my popcorn with DS1 & DS2, a woman came in from the side and pushed her daughter in front of me, I dug deep down to find my most snooty English accent and said, 'how dare you use your child to push in like that' let's just say she was a bit of a redneck.....I then gave the girl behind the counter my order over her child's head.

I won, score 1-0

When I say 'pulled a queue jumper' I mean called them on their behavior of course

I always call out queue jumpers. The worse are ones that push in front of children.

And what is the MN position on people 'saving' a place in the queue for friends?

We were at the zoo recently and there was a HUGE queue, curse you Groupon vouchers woman in front of us had a couple of kids, and I shit you not after 20 minutes 2 other families with at least 4 kids and a various assortment of grandparents each joined her - they'd obviously arranged to meet at a prearranged time and she was 'holding their place'. Fair enough if your DH has gone to park the car or something I don't mind him joining you, but not the rest of your extended family and their next door neighbours.

Re proper queue jumpers my response is always "The back of the queue is that way" with a helpful finger point and grin that says "you really don't want to piss me off."

Minty, I did say something to her, have you read the Op, if you're being funny well yes exactly, I am still going on about it so that's a YABU from you then?

Rest assured I was not passive in this situation as you're making me out to be. Other people backed me up they didn't act on my behalf! I'm not one of life's passive characters and this is what I said up thread that perhaps I'm getting to wound up about nothing!!

God I was so pissed off the other day , realllllllly long queue, boiling hot busy store and so this woman joins the queue as it goes around the corner to stand with her daughter. Paying separately mind. My two year old was sitting patiently in his buggy and quietly so I didn't see why she couldn't wait her turn too. Ruuuuuuude!!! Although typically passively agressively Englishly I just commented loudly to the people behind me. Scared of making a scene!

I HATE queue jumpers. I had stern words with a really good looking queue jumping bloke recently, I was kicking myself afterward because pre-queue jump I could swear he was checking me out, but I couldnt physically help myself!

I can't keep my mouth shut either.
Was in the post office on Saturday with the 2 ds's. When I arrived there was a woman filling out a form I joined long queue several others joined behind me.
Form filling woman excused me'd her way to nearly the front announcing that she was behind "him" she had left queue to fill out form.
Lots of eye rolling from other customers. I said that as she had left queue she should have gone to the end we were all waiting and her time was not more precious than anyone else's. She did go to the back of the queue quite graciously actually and I got a lot of smiles and well dones whispered at me.
I just find it really frustrating. I am happy to let people go in front if they only have a couple of things or they even ask nicely bit just blatant queue jumping rips my knitting.

There was nearly a riot at a soft play centre on a rainy Sunday recently. They are really slow at getting people in and there is only enough shelter for about the first half dozen families. Everyone was squishing in as tightly as possible and then a woman swanned up to the front with her children to join some friends.

And then paid separately.

By card.

Which got declined.

And then asked for details of a discount card.

And paid for that.

By card.

After lengthy discussion.

[explodes at mere memory of queue-gate]

'The back of the queue is that way', yes that is far more to the point, I will remember that one. However, I think she would've said the same,'yes I'm next.'

Kungfu, I sneaked a peek on your profile to see if you lived near me as our local 360 is just the same and had to say - what a gorgeous baby!!! Oh my word he's lovely!

YANBU I can't stand queue jumpers. I had someone try it on at Sainsburys SS tills. There is one queue for each bank of 4 (2 each side). As the person in front of me went to the tills I became aware of a man hovering next to me. When the next till became free he went to go to it. I just barged past him and put my basket down.

Also had someone at matalan join her (adult) daughter in the queue and then both proceeded to pay separately. I was fuming. It's that attitude that they are so much more important than all the other saps people standing there that bugs me.

I remember queueing for a club (a while ago) and a taxi pulled up and two Made in Chelsea types got out walked to the front and said in braying whiny tones "but do WE have to queue". Thankfully the bouncer put them straight though its become rather a catch phrase with DH and I .

I don't always say something but I did partake in the most epic of queue jump arguments in the Waitrose at Oxford Circus about a year ago which ended in me telling a woman I would take her the back of the queue myself. Cheeky cow told me to fuck off, after I pointed out that

1. She was queue jumping and this was unacceptable (cue eye rolling and huffing about shes in a rush from her)
2. Her time is not more important than mine and she can wait like the rest of us (apparently she had a very important place to be and could not wait)
3. I am in a bad mood and today was not the day to be doing this (this is when the swearing started)

I got zero back up from the rest of the queue but as she stomped to the back I think I may have physically glowed.

Also had an experience at the Uffizi in Florence when some Americans barged in front of us and our italian friends. My friend tried to point it out to them and got some bullshit about they're meeting someone and do we even speak english. I then summoned my extra posh voice and exclaimed loudly "I AM English".

People are so bloody entitled.

Worst place I ever encountered was the Egyptian passport control there was literally a scrum around the counters the strongest got to the front. My friend and I stood there for hours whilst all these men shoved everyone out of the way. Horrid place and a salutary glimpse of a world without queueing...

Yanbu. Did exactly the same recently. Queue at the ss checkout huge, all of us waiting patiently and for our turn when a woman turned up and stood beside me ignoring the people waiting behind her. Didn't think twice about telling her she'd jumped the queue, where she then looked very embarrassed at being pulled up about it and made out she hadn't noticed!

People only try this as they know that normally no one will comment on it.

My response to anyone who tries it on,

"you choose"

"what/pardon"

"you choose, we either have a society with rules that we all follow,or survival of the fittest, personally I don't mind which, so pick one"

always said with my best paddington stare, it never fails to work.

I had a hugely irritating one that turned out to be very amusing, I walked to a cashpoint (no queue) outside a bank with ds2 in buggy and was just getting my card out of my purse when a woman virtually shoved me out of the way and put her card in the machine. Outraged, I said "excuse me!" and she replied with something along the lines of me "obviously" having more time available than her - clearly, just because I have a baby that must have been the case .

Anyhow, still at the manners, I go inside the bank to use the cashpoint there...only to be joined a minute later by the same woman who then had to wait for me because the machine outside was out of order ...it's amazing how many different things you can do on a cashpoint machine you know, not just get your cash and go!

Ha, quoteunquote, I'm guessing you'd be in front either way!!

I have "explained how the queuing system works" to people pushing in at the train station. It's very satisfying because you feel the approval of everyone else in the queue.

Sleep - I hope you took a looooooooong time.

I would have. I'd have stayed faffing about with it for ages. Checking my balance about ten times, getting print outs...

All with a huge grin on my face