I have name changed for obvious reasons.
I really don't know what to do for the best.
I will start from the beginning.
DS is 7 and used to be good friends with another little boy, lets call him H.
DS and H were in the same class last year and were good friends for a while, but I became uncomfortable with their friendship as H frequently used bad language and what I considered to be inappropriate behaviour.
I became aware that H's mother allowed him and her other children to watch anything they wanted on TV, including violent and scary films and tv programs, H told me that he watched The Walking Dead with his mother, and told me vivid descriptions of what had happened in past episodes, as I watched the program myself I knew that he was telling the truth. He also described many other inappropriate films and TV shows that he said he watching, including Dexter which was one of his favorites.
I asked his mother about this and she admitted that she does let her children watch whatever they want on tv, and didn't see anything wrong with them watching scary and violent things.
Because of this and many other things a encouraged DS to play with other children and stopped allowing after school playdates with H.
MY DD started at the same school in september. H's little brother is also in DD's class, I will call him D.
I had heard a few comments from other parents in the playground about things D had done but I didnt want to gossip so I didn't say anything to the parents, or mention H's past behaviour.
A few weeks ago DD's best friend had a chinese burn on her arm from another child at school, they didn't know which child had done it as none of the supervisors saw it happen.
Then a few days later DD also came home with a nasty chinese burn on her arm.
She told the teachers that she didn't know who did it, and the teacher said nobody saw it happen, but it turned out that 6 children had been injured in this way.
When I later asked DD about it she (after much denial) told me that it was D who had hurt her and the other children, I asked her how he had done it without the supervisors seeing and she said "he follows people into the toilets to hurt them where no one can see."
I told his teacher this and she said she would look into it.
Then shortly after another parent told me that her DS had told her that D had come up to him in the toilets and 'shown' him how he can "touch his willy to make it feel good" several other parents mentioned similar comments had been made to their children, but most didnt know by whom.
I talked about it with DD and she told me that D always "follows everyone into the toilets" and that he had told her to "take off her knickers so he could play with her" when she refused he hurt her.
I called the mother of DD friend (the one that was also hurt by D) and she said she would take to her DD about it, and later told me that her DD had told her a similar story with very little prompting (about what DD had told me) by her mother.
We both spoke to the head teacher the next day and she said she would look into it.
by the end of the week I called the HT to ask what she was doing to 'look into it' and she said that she was certain that it was just a misunderstanding and that she had spoken to D about his behaviour and that it would not be happening again.
After much though I decided that I would talk to D's mother. I called her and told her everything I knew about what happened to DD and DD's friend (I didnt mention the other children as I dont know if that was true or just gossip)
She told me that she had been told by the school what he had said, and she did apologize, and said she hoped DD's arm was better. She said "you know what kids are like" and I said I did but D's behaviour was concerning, and she said "its just too much f*ing TV"
It was all fine until DD told me that it had happened again (after all of the conversations) and several other parents also mentioned similar things from their children.
But the HT said that she spoke to D and that he promised that he would not do anything like that again.
The school dont seem to be doing anything to investigate this.
I am sure that it is just something that he picked up from an inappropriate tv program, but of course there is always the possibility that something worse could have taught him this behaviour, and I am concerned that no one seems to be looking into why this boy is behaving this way.
Would I be unreasonable to call social services myself to make them aware of this behaviour? Or am I just over reacting?
Thanks for reading.